TALKING ABOUT EVERYTHING ON THE MIND

 Hi OMITB fans,

Using the gift of the gab is hard when there's a billion and one things on the mind. Spilling everything out in the open that is so tightly packed in the vault you call the inner workings of the mind can make or break you. I wouldn't think it's a chore more or less it's just difficult to get things off your chest cuz you knowingly and unknowingly might dig a trench of trouble that leads to a network of problematic tunnels that you might not be able to tackle unless you have the sturdy backbone to fight back with to have the ball in your court in the middle of heart to hearts. Or it could be one-sided where a person could let your vent about everything that is plaguing you, and they just listen until they can give you a fountain of advice that is better than any quote that you can read on this 'space age thing called the internet.' That's a line from the movie franchise Step Up. 

Sometimes you might think it's better to keep your mouth shut and be an observer to fly under the radar, it doesn't work, it just allows you to bottle everything up and shove it away into a box that's tightly wrapped with a bow, until you explode like a grenade, which is very unhealthy. You can't drive your inner thoughts down the road of overthinking, cuz shutting a situation down without unpacking it with a fellow expert in your close circle of people that you trust 1.000 percent. They can help you get over anything and everything in a split second. Talking to one person can be a huge step in the right direction before you get lost in an ocean of silence. I know this is a cliche line, but it sticks in my brain most of the time 'use your words.' I've seen heroes in storylines use it many times. 

Okay, I'll stop  going off on a long ramble, and give y'all some mind-changing, awesome advice. Keep your eyes and ears peeled for the words that could change your life. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows and blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and joggers/T-shirts and jeans. Grab some Sweet Thai Chilli Rice Crackers, and listen loud and crystal clear:

Opening up the yellowed pages of your closed up emotional book is difficult to do. When you're pressured to answer all the questions of 'why don't you wanna talk?' or 'talk to me I'm a vault.' It's about trust most of the time, but confidence and self-esteem play into it as well and when someone shoots you down with the 'be quiet line' all that confidence and bravado gets chucked out the window and you seal your lips shut. You have to have backbone and talk about the things that are sticking to your chest that bother you. Talking about them helps to get you on the same page and level as another individual no matter how scary or off putting it can get having your number one's in your corner makes you have nerves of steel. So try and find the upper hand in a situation even when all the power has been drained from your power bank.'

Ooh that was a paragraph. It might be too much. You can't be the suffer in silence kind of person too much cuz it causes red flags and worries when you get told not to tell people things cuz you keep them in the strictest of confidences. One major thing I wanna put out there is trust is earnt not given, and to open up to a person if you're reserved on another level where you're floating in the realm of oblivion and the void, you have to find one or two people who will get in your grille (face), and give you the 3rd degree to find out if you're okay, cuz they have this thing called the sixth sense. They know when you're abnormally quiet and freaking out because you've dug the trenches of trouble too deep into the mud of trial and errors. 

The mind is like a labyrinth, there's twists and turns, and things that we can't put our finger on the pulse for because some thoughts are meant to be roared out onto the rooftops like a lioness/lion's roar. Talking isn't just about opening the mouth though it's about thought, being heard listened to, and opinions and ideals taken into consideration with a third party outsider that is close to you on another level. 

I rambled on for too long there didn't I? I'll give y'all some more mind blowing advice. Sit tight and glued to your screens. Maybe your devices are better than my old rusty DELL laptop. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows and quilted blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of trainers/kicks/sliders/fuzzy slippers/crocs/heels. Grab a huge stick of candyfloss. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'You might not feel comfortable talking face to face with a person. Try texting, DM's and Snaps are the way to go. Maybe journaling is your way of talking with the line of 'Dear Somebody.' Spilling the versions of you that is unguarded and vulnerable CAN'T be seen as weak. it makes you human instead of an unfeeling robot. There can be many layers to a person that can be peeled back and unpacked if you talk to them and figure them out on a deeper level. Just make sure a person is listening to you rather than you sitting there listening to them ramble on so it's almost meeting into the territory of lecturing. Listening and giving advice is a 2 way street.'

That was some deep advice. It'll take a while to sink in. Have you ever experienced being in the hot seat of a discussion and answering all these questions you have no idea how to answer? It's like a wave of ocean water is washing over you like a tsunami or an avalanche from a mountain until you are trying to find the right words to answer a fierce line of questioning. Being put on the spot isn't the cup of tea you wanna be drinking. It makes you uncomfortable and sweaty until the fires of anxiety fill you up, and you can't take a deep whoosh of air in your lungs. You want conversation to flow smoothly, but deep profound ones don't flow smoothly they're choppy and uneven like the storm on an ocean, but you are left with a deep and meaningful impact. Don't try and rush into your cocoon of safety, getting these important conversations in your system can be the healthiest thing if you're safe and comfortable and in the right headspace to talk. Having a safe space to chat is ideal to let your self be real with the people in your inner circle. 

I'll stop rambling and give y'all some mind-blowing, earth-changing advice. Sit back and relax with those fluffy pillows and blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies, sweatshirts/joggers/t-shirts and shorts. Grab some pop corn, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'Talk the talk, walk the walk. Learn how to be fierce and don't back down from a little bit of panic attacked conflict. It's about being fearless. You have to have respect for the older people in your circle, but respect has to be earned and given in the same time. You might cross lines when you're chatting to a person about all your problems, but it might not be all the time. Lean into instinct and listen and learn from it. You have to own your confidence in order to be bad-ass again. Being a boss is in your nature if you come from a long line of strong opinionated women who aren't afraid to speak their minds.'

Whoa. That was next level. Like the song from the move Hobbs and Shaw. Sometimes everything you say without biting that wagging tongue of yours can offend people. There can be issues when it comes to being savage, but you have to embrace this savageness. It's how you don't let people walk all over you when you're saying everything that's on your mind. Being under the radar isn't all it's cracked up to be. You have to make bigger waves to be noticed cuz you are beaten out by the perfection of others when you're beautifully perfectly imperfect. So break the expectations piled high on your shoulders and rise above the bar of perfection that's set so high by others. Be who you are, which is your own person.

Okay I'll stop rambling and leave you with a quote, which goes along the lines of:

'We deserve to be heard.' (Lemonade Mouth).

One last piece of advice would be:

'Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself when you're talking about something deep or personal. The best defense is you defending yourself.'

That's all for now. Muse on all this advice and get back to reading this in your own time.

Enjoy.

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