BEING DIAGNOSED WITH DISABILITIES FROM LOVED ONES- FEELING LIKE THE FREAK

 Hey Chicas and Chicos,

Don't get me wrong. I love people with disabilities and every disability out there, but doesn't mean I want them all at the moment. I have a lot on my plate. Anyway it's a daunting thing if you thought one moment you're completely fine and normal, then the next you do something so crazy that you're seen as an anomaly, the freak of nature. Your whole world comes crashing down around you and it makes you think about why you let your walls covered in ivy come down to let people in that you thought you could trust a thousand percent to then tell you that something about you is odd if you're a particular person like myself. You take pride in who you are as a person and when someone tells you they think there's something wrong with you, it shatters your high confidence and self-esteem to the point where you overthink the simplest of things. It tips the scales of negative emotion in your favour. Being picked apart piece by piece like a brick building isn't the nicest feeling in the world. Knowing that you've overcome so many obstacles in life where a bully has told you you're not normal doesn't faze you, it's when the person closest to you tells you, then you become shaken to your core. It's a scary thing to be thought of as this amazing outgoing bubbly person to crawling back into your shell because your confidence has taken a few hits along the way. I'll stop rambling now and give y'all some awe-inspiring advice. 

Sit back. Relax against those fluffy cushions and grab a blanket to snuggle into. Slip into your favourite pair of PJ's/loungewear/hoodies/t-shirts/joggers, and grab an ice-cold pink Mr. Freeze tip-top, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'You have to smile and wave like the penguins in Madagascar, even if you've been stumped into silence. You have to put on a mask to show your outer strength. Everyone has weakness so it's okay to look floored when this happens. Just talk to someone about it if you're feeling uncomfortable after you feel gobsmacked in the heat of the moment and you have no idea what you NEED to say to stop the shard of hurt that pierces your heart and shatters it into a thousand tiny pieces. It might make you hit rock bottom, but you have to claw your way back to sanity somehow.'

Sheesh, that was one long-ass hard-hitting paragraph of advice. When someone else that's close to you backs up the person with the diagnosis of your weird behaviours and traits, it's like a kick to the gut, but you have to appear like it didn't affect you in that moment even if you want to cry rivers and waterfalls of tears don't do it in front of people you don't know if you can trust 100 percent after they've labelled you as abnormal. You have to keep your guard up to show how strong you are. It's like having one of those R.B.F's, it's not your fault if people take you for granted and don't appreciate your differences cuz they're meant to be celebrated. You might love these people deeply and unconditionally, but when they've crossed an unwritten line of treating you like a freak for the first time in your life you need to set them straight and tell them straight-up that they're in the wrong. 

I'm gonna give you some more jaw-dropping advice. Sit back. Relax. Make a pillow or blanket fort, and wear your favourite sets of loungewear/PJ's/t-shirt/hoodies/joggers, grab some indian tea, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'Any person with a disability knows that they're amazing, unique, and one of a kind. Don't ever let anyone tell you you're not good enough, or you do or say the dumbest stuff sometimes. Every thought and opinion or action has value and meaning. Don't let anyone underestimate you. Your voice matters, so use it once in a while. Don't be afraid to dip your toe in the quicksand of trouble. You might fall into the trenches of trouble, but it's definitely worth it. You can make a difference with your voice.'

OOH. That was some awesome advice. I'd take it myself. Getting told you don't fit in cuz you're quiet or remind someone of something you need more than once when they're not listening to you is frustrating. Then when you say you need it quickly to a sibling you get diagnosed with another disability. I think people with them are amazing young people. I know some throughout my 24 years of living on this earth. It just tears you apart and doesn't make you feel comfortable in your own skin when a family member tells you you're not sticking to the mould of normality or perfection when you're perfect in your own way. It shouldn't get you down in the dumps, you should brush it off and take it one day at a time and forget about it. It's hard to shake it off and appear normal when you're in shock. Trust me, I've been there done that. 

Okay, I'll stop rambling and give y'all some more mind-blowing advice. Sit back. Relax. Stay glued to your screens. Slap on your favourite make-up products, wear your go-to loungewear/PJ's/hoodies/tees/joggers, grab a jar a Nutella or Peanut Butter, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'Cut yourself some slack. It's not easy to fill other people's shoes of perfection. Be your own person with a long list of imperfections and flaws. It's okay to not be okay. If someone says you stick out like a sore thumb, it's their problem, just be the best version of yourself you can be and take it slowly. Don't crawl back into the darkest parts of yourself that led you to crawl back into your shell. Be fearless and tell someone if you don't like what they have to say about you. Cuz you're a star that shines the brightest in an ocean of darkness.'

AND THE CROWD GOES WILD. That was some next-level genius if I do say so myself. Go the extra mile and achieve the impossible. It's all about proving people wrong. Experiences like this can make or break you. Don't let it crush you until you lose yourself to the shadows. You need to shine in the spotlight of life. Yes, people will tell you all sorts of things to make you unsure of yourself, you just have to push past all that negativity and work your ass off to prove that these judgements and assumptions that are thrown at you aren't true. Make a statement for yourself. Feel empowered to challenge people if they think you aren't sticking to the status quo or whatever.

I've talked your ears off by now so I'm gonna give you guys some more uplifting words of wisdom. Sit back. Relax. Grab some pillows and blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of PJ's/loungewear/hoodies/T-shirts/joggers, grab a cornetto, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'You're a superhero. Your disability is a superpower. You can be like Matt Murdock with his epic cane skills. You're a special human being. You inspire billions of people everyday. You can change the world. The smartest people are people with disabilities so realise your true potential. You can advocate on behalf of other people. So there's really nothing wrong with you. You're not a freak or an outsider. You're an asset to so many people out there.'

Whoa. A stellar piece of wisdom to follow. You have to believe in yourself. Don't let other people's negative words have an impact on you. Being an upstanding confident person in society means the world to you. There's a quote from one of my favourite movies from Disney Channel called Lemonade Mouth. It goes along the lines of:

''Be heard. Be Strong. Be proud.'

This is a chance for you to not shut down and become a vault so you can throw away the key to your voice. Be proud of who you are as a disabled person. I know I am. It's about accomplishing so much to be as normal as possible. I get that all this is from a higher power and all that, but no one's confidence should be compromised to the point where they are unable to use communication devices such as talking or pictures etc to voice how they feel. A song lyric from the Disney Channel movie StarStruck really inspired me. It goes along the lines of:

'I'm no superman. I can't take your hand. And fly you anywhere you wanna go. I can't read your mind like a billboard sign, and tell you everything you wanna hear, but I'll be your hero.'

You have to find those ride or dies that will accept you no matter what. The ones who don't care about how crazy or weird you turn out to be. You feel everything ten times deeply. When your strong foundation of self-assurance and worth gets crumpled you need to do a little soul searching to see where the other person went wrong in giving you another disability to think about. I'll stop rambling and give y'all some more earth-shattering advice:

Sit back. Relax. Grab all those fluffy pillows and make a house or something. Wear your favourite Marvel merch, grab some Magnum, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'Don't give a damn about what anyone thinks about you. You don't need to live up to a mountain of expectation that is so sky-high that you can't even reach it. You have to set the bar high on your own terms. Be who you are with zero apologies. Don't fall into the trap of being seen as an alien or some subhuman species.'

Flipping heck, that was amazing advice. You have to own the stage of life. It's like that STORMZY song Own it or something. You have to strut down the catwalk of life with confidence. Sometimes you'll fake it til you make it, but most of the time you'll be genuine and scream your feelings to the rooftops like a proud lioness roaring. You hve to be on top of the world. Yes the world can be rotten to the core, but you have to find some peace in one little corner of the world. You have to search for the light of positivity at the end of the tunnel. I'm gonna give y'all some more ground breaking advice.

Sit back, and relax. Grab a fluffy pillow or blanket. Wear your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies/tees/joggers, and chug an ice-cold slush, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'Do something to change a person's opinion about yourself. You have to assert yourself to put your point across if you don't like all the labels and fingers pointed at you cuz you're too different. It's better to stand out of a crowd than follow it like a sheep. You have to walk away from a situation if it's getting too much for you to be in the same space as someone who's trying to bring out all the flaws in your personality even if there's nothing wrong with it. Make a difference so you can change people's perceptions about you.'

OH MY GAWD. That was mind blowing. You have to speak up for yourself and make sure you deserve to be heard instead of being shut out and shut down. It's difficult, but you have to hold your head up high and just tell people to back off if they're upsetting you or trying to make doubt creep into your head so you can't get out of the maze of thoughts that churn inside your mind's eye. Words are like bullets that can hit you and injure you and sometimes you can't 'get over it' and get back up cuz it takes time to heal and become whole again after being torn apart and punched in the chest by these words that seem harmless, but they have so much weight and impact behind them. You don't know until they send you reeling into shock. Okay I'll give you one last nugget of wisdom.

Sit back. Relax. Make a cocoon with all the blankets you can find in the house. Wear your favourite loungewear/PJ's/Hoodies/tees/joggers, have some chocolate cake, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'Some people will tell you it's not a big deal, but it's a huge deal when you're suddenly told there's something about you that's different. Don't feel scared to tell them you're not ready to hear this big news that's gonna change you and your world. Feel free to be the best version of who you are and prove to the world that you are fine being yourself with a few added glitches that make you a force to reckon with until you're unstoppable.'

I'll leave you to chew on that while you read this.

Stay stuck to your screens.

Enjoy.

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