DAY ONE'S MOVING ON TO BIGGER BETTER THINGS

 Hey huge imaginations,

It's a sad, poignant thing for you to not see the person you call your day 1 everyday. Not being able to talk to them all the time is a bleak thing. They're there for you any time of the day and will lend you a listening ear if you have any problems ginormous or tiny. If you have some solid beef with anyone they'll be there to give you some next-level out of this world advice about the things you wouldn't tell anyone else in this world. They're the ones who you can bare your dark soul to without any judgement, and when they're not around cuz they're moved to a different country to do bigger and better things you miss them cuz they know the real you. Not the one you hide behind with thick layers of armour or the version of you that hides behind the tallest walls covered in thick vines of ivy. The ones who have your back no matter what. They are the ones you can be real with. Even if it's just one person or a group of people. They're the ones you trust 1000 percent cuz you know that anything you say can be in full confidence.

Oh I've outdone myself rambling on and on. Now I'll give y'all some mind-blowing advice, so keep your eyes and ears peeled. Sit back and relax. Grab those fluffy pillows and blankets. Slip into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/Hoodies and joggers/T-shirts and jeans. Grab a plate of lamb ribs or beef ones if your prefer. Listen loud and crystal clear;

'Cherish the times you have with your day ones before they leave the country and you behind. Remember all the good times you had together, but also don't freeze them out just cuz it's gonna kill you when you don't see them everyday. They might be on the other side of the world, but they'll always be there for you when you need them the most. Write letters and save them so it feels like you're still talking to them  It might leave a hole in your heart so you have to reach out to them if things go side weays and shit hits the fan.'

I know it's heartbreaking when you gotta say goodbye to the person that was in your corner every time. The person who had your back no matter what and didn't side with the people who don't really take the time to get to know and understand you on another level. They're always there waiting and watching on the sidelines cheering you on even when you're feeling like you're not good enough or worthless or you can't fill the shoes of robotic perfection a person leaves behind for you to step into when you're not that person. They tell you you're your own special person and don't judge you for being who you are. You can let all your walls and armour down around them cuz they accept you for who you really are and they let you express yourself without putting you down with the line 'it's all in your head' or 'be quiet.' They remind you you're not going mad or messed up in the head. They like the way your complex brain works to come up with clever insights and observations.

My next question is how do you try and not miss that person everyday? The answer is you can't turn off the empty silence they've left behind it might seem like a huge chasm of oblivion that has been left in their wake. There's not point in denying that you miss these people who are your day ones. It's like they've left a blazing trail of fire in your heart and chest cuz you can't go to them and have deep talks face to face and bask in the presence of their golden advice that is better than the advice that I can give in this space here. You miss those drives where you can just let that bottle of emotions and worries burst open and leak all over the glove compartment into their listening ears so they can give you that wave of reassurance that you're a good person. They tell you the real gritty truths that might scare you, but you still listen to them cuz you value their words of wisdom and you seek their approval so much that when people who are older than you or them try to tarnish your reputation in their eyes you panic and get lost in the maze of your head to the land of overthinking until you actually tell them about this and they tell you what they really think about you, which is greatness on another level. 

Bro's and Sis's really rambled on there for a bit. I'll give y'all some more words of wisdom. Sit back and relax underneath your bedsheets. Slide into your favourite merch from a TV show you love. Grab some loaded egg croissants. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Don't just ring them for advice on the mountain of problems you have. Ring them for jokes and banter as well. Try and see how they're doing in a whole new world. Yeah I brought the Aladdin song into this. You can write a billion speeches and letters, but spending quality time with them in the flesh is the ticket to brighten up your day. It's okay to show vulnerability in front of them cuz you trust them with your life so confide in them about anything and everything without feeling ashamed of yourself for being unique and quirky.'

Whoa. Totally jaw dropping to the ground kind of advice. Anyway when this person leaves you behind it feels like your entire world is crumbling cuz they were the person you could call for anything and everything like a real bro rather than a teen bro who doesn't have time to navigate all the complex mixed up emotion that you feel on a daily basis. They see the real you who you try too hard to hide from the world and they earn and keep your trust, and they'll never break it  into a million shards of glass. When they're gone you bury the real you underneath all the layers of skin until you can see them again. It's really bad to not talk for ages at a time, but you protect yourself from getting laser beamed with the pain that comes from other people's words. Their words can't hurt you though.

Sheesh. That was too much deep analysing of the subject. I wanna get back down to wowing you with the awesome mind-blowing words of advice. Sit back and relax. Slide into your favourite male or female Disney character costume even if it's a villain. Grab some Mini Cheddars. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Faking it til you make it won't work with these people. They have superpowers that can see through the cracks in the bricks of your walls. They force the real version of yourself to come out of the shadows and play. They can be your ride or die. Let them be your virtual shoulder to cry on. Maybe a literal virtual ear to rant to or vent or just give movie or show recommendations to. They're there to take your mind off of all the stress and anxiety that bubbles up in the pit of your stomach and threatens to eat you up until you can't breathe or find your way back up to see how bright and beautiful you are as a person.'

Literal mic drop. There's a whole new world out there for the people you call your sis's and bro's. They're tackling new challenges and racing to the finish line of success. You gotta be happy for them, but you can be sad that they're not there to be a guiding light that you can look up to. Yeah, you can still be your own person, but having a literal life guru next to you on your team gives you a fighting chance to have confidence and self-esteem in the palm of your hand. They're the ones who don't tell you that you're the villain in their storyline, the one who tears everything apart like a grenade. The ones who ruin everything. They see you as the underestimated hero that rises to prove everything and everyone wrong. It's an empowering feeling. They empower you to be your best self.

Jeez Louise. Rambling on and on as usual. This is some legit advice that reminds us to be who you are. I'm gonna leave a quote for you to chew on:

'It is so hard to leave-until you leave.'

Paper Towns- John Green

I'm gonna give y'all one last bit of advice to think about. Sit back and relax. Slide into your favourite pair of chucks. Grab a Racerbar chocolate. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Missing a person is the hardest thing you experience. Once they're gone it's different. You're not the same person you used to be around them. Moving on in life without them is hard when they're on the other side of the world, but you have to be brave and tell them you've a text away or a phone call away. You have to suck it up and take the time to rebuild yourself in the positive light that they see you in. Make sure to keep the bro-sis bond alive even if you've billions of miles away from them.'

Enjoy.

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