BEING BOOMED AT

 Hey Guys and Girls,

It's a very confidence sinking thing to get boomed at. You feel like your entire face is burning like a lit flame on a candle. It's got a name which is called embarrassment or shame. You feel like there's an elephant in the room, but it's just you getting told about all the things that aren't' right with you. It shatters all that positive buzz in your veins that makes you a hyperactive bubbly overconfident person filled with happiness. You wish the ground would open up and swallow you whole cuz your whole body has erupted into flames of embarrassment cuz you don't fit in to the shoes of robotic perfection that a person has left behind for you to fill, which isn't fair to you cuz it puts pressure on your shoulders that then causes the breathlessness of white hot panic that fills your lungs until you're drowning in the deep ocean of stress and disbelief in yourself as a human being that is good enough in the eyes of others when you shouldn't worry about anything except being an unapologetic version of the real you. 

Look at me rambling on and getting right down in to the depths of the nitty gritty of the subject. I'll lay down some life-altering advice that will open your eyes to some new insights. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows and blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies/joggers or sweatpants/t-shirts and jeans. Grab some Wotsits to munch on. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Don't let the arrows that come flying from other people's words while they're booming pierce your fragile heart or your dark soul. It can make or break you until you put your walls back up and close your emotional book up until the yellowed pages slam shut, so don't let the punches from their words hit you too hard and don't let them break you. Master the poker face or just ignore their words that echo in your minds eye to unravel the deeper meanings in their lectures cuz it'll drive you mad into overthinking mode, which leads to the waterfall of sadness.'

Geez Louise! That was a huge chunk of advice. We can't all follow in the footsteps of perfection in the sand that are left behind by the people who we don't see everyday anymore. You taste self worth on your fingertips until you can grab it by the hand, but when someone tears you down it slips through your fingers and turns into dust until you wallow in the dark pit of worthlessness, don't stoop to that dark level of worthlessness cuz it'll rip your dark soul apart into a thousand shreds. You gotta find a person who can tell you to keep fighting and tell you to claw your way back to the top by the skin of your teeth. Disgust and belittlement can eat you alive these are not a pretty look to be labelling yourselves with so sometimes you have to brick yourself up in the armour cuz getting hurt is inevitable and you need to take the world on like a warrior queen or king. 

Ooh. That was a hell of a lot of advice. I'll give y'all some more so sit back and relax. Lean against those office chairs, slip into your favourite main character moment. Grab a veggie samosa, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'You might be painted as a monster in the eyes of others, but remember who you were and get back to being who you are without feeling like you're gonna disappear in a moment. Fight tooth and nail for your voice to come back to your voice box and let your thoughts and opinions unleash into a world that makes other people's towers of confidence and importance crumble into a billion pieces of rubble. Prove all the fingers that get pointed at you wrong. Change your image in their eyes and it really doesn't matter if you see disappointment in the windows to their soul. Cuz at the end of the day you have to love yourself for who you are without pleasing a single soul.'

WOW. This is some solid advice that can make a person's day. You might piss a few people off along the way, but booming at someone isn't the way forward. Getting yelled at or talked down to would make anyone feel unappreciated or belittled or just feel less than brilliant. It just extinguishes that defiant spark that fuels you to be self-assured and it takes years and months to set that spark of fire and spunkiness to get a boost of self-esteem and empowerment that stops all the voices in the back of your mind from blasting their soundtrack of white noise from taking over and staining all that brightness with the dimness of the dark shadowy veil of doubts. Getting mixed up with the words that can bring you to your knees is risky business if you cross a few verbal lines is where mistakes can be made. It's a fine line where some lines drawn in the sand can get blurred in your vision if you keep reading between the lines of what people say if you keep analysing the words said in a situation.

Ooh. There I go again on a roll. I'll use the line 'the pen is mightier than the sword,' and give y'all some jaw-dropping advice. Keep your eyes and ears peeled for the words of wisdom. Sit back and relax. Grab a blanket and some pillows. Slip into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and joggers/t-shirts and shorts. Grab some nachos and dips. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'You might have to sit and listen to someone's words while they tower over you so don't give yourself a chance to be put in that position. You can use your words and say it's getting too much and walk away. If and when you can't try and figure out how to ask and answer the tough complicated questions that get thrown in your face. Also focus on your heart beat and breathing before the panic spirals out of control and figure out all the moves so the balls in your court and you can be a king instead of being a pawn on the chessboard of life.'

OMG. That is some heavy  hitting advice. Words stick to your brain like glue sticks to paper. You cannot afford to shut down while getting boomed at. You have to hold your head high and be able to make strategic countermoves with your words so they can have weight and meaning behind them to create impact and strength so a person is engaged in what you're trying to get across in these difficult conversations without underestimating how smart brave and level headed you can be. There's no attorneys or coaches on your side so you have to hold your own in a challenging battlefield of being  able to articulate yourself to the best of your ability so you can come to an understanding with a person to gravitate away from the conflict and find a middle or common ground with each other. As long as you can gain the hand of apology after a person has boomed then you'll be alright. Remember sometimes you've gotta be the bigger person because not everyone can get over pride and ego as easily as you can to be able to feel your deep complicated emotional issues. 

Ooh. That was an eye-opener right there. I'll get back on topic and give y'all some next level advice that will change your world view. Sit back and relax against those pillows and blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of chucks (trainers), fluffy slippers, crocs or sliders. Grab a butter roti roll, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'Anger is a way to bring all those unconfronted demons to the surface from another person. You can face yours day in and day out. The chance to find inner peace is hard. Sometimes talking and breathing might not always be the game changer you were looking for. Writing and drawing can fill the time to forget about things. Taking your mind off a booming can really be difficult, but do it to escape from the trenches of trouble you dig twice a day.'

Yeah some basic advice. I'll give y'all a quote from one of my all time favourite movies The Help. It goes along the lines of:

'You is kind. You is smart. You is important.'

I'll leave you to read into this line. It's about feeling your greatest every day no matter what is said to you to drag you down even if the words burn your heart and set it alight. You have to carry on.

I'll leave you guys to enjoy this.

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