BACKBONE

 Hey fellow Lincoln Lawyer fans,

Letting your inner Dragon Warrior out can be the greatest thing ever. Having backbone leads you to finding your inner boss side, the assertive bold fearless side that you hide underneath the layers of thick steel armour that no one can break through. You have to be able to find that little spark of fire that allows you to become a force to be reckoned with. It's not like the inner beast that comes out that's a different thing entirely. A question for y'all to think about is this- does having a backbone mean the same thing as being straight up with a person? Yes and no. It can just make you be able to have your voice out in the open a lot more. Being able to put a person in their place if you don't like what they have to say in a difficult conversation might be something that is the definition of having backbone, if you look in a dictionary. It's not about being overly tough as nails most of the time. It's more about being assertive if you've crawled into your shell and embraced the cloak of invisibility from the greatest movie franchise of all time Harry Potter.

Okay, I'll stop rambling now and give y'all the awe-inspiring, jaw dropping advice. Sit  back and relax against those fluffy pillows and blankets. Slip into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and sweatshirts/joggers/T-shirts and jeans. Grab a mini brownie cake thingy. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Using your strong quiet silent voice can take time and effort. Asserting yourself in terms of having a backbone can push you out of this thing called the comfort zone. It pushes your levels of confidence until you grow into the person you wanna be. It could be the best version of yourself. It's not about having the 'tude or disrespect.'

Ooh. That was some solid advice. Being able to hold your own while being opinionated is the key to rebuilding the tower of confidence back. Brick by brick. It allows you to get your point across quite well if you can be heard. It's about owning the stage of life with your words. It's like that movie Inside Out 2 where all the emotions are in your head having full on conversations with each other. You have to channel your inner warrior like the panda in Kung Fu Panda to advocate for yourself and on behalf of others. It's easy to hide your inner fierce tigress boss level voice, I'd say use it to your advantage, but not to your full savageness.

I'll stop rambling and give y'all some awesome mind-blowing earth-changing advice. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows/quilted blankets. Slip into your favourite go-to pair of kicks/sliders/fluffy slippers/crocs/heels. Grab a bag of crisps. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Finding your inner savage beast takes time and effort. Being able to ask the unanswerable questions and challenge a person is the most difficult, but rewarding thing. It might be stressful and the anxiety from it flows though the veins like hot molten lava, but you have to go for it and let your ideas and observations rise to the surface. It's like your head rises to the surface in a swimming pool.'

OOH. Some heavy, but useful advice. Sometimes you have to have a backbone to have the courage to speak up for what you believe in. It's not about telling someone off in a sticky situation. It's about putting yourself out there in a vocal way. Being heard and having your say is very important, before you shove everything in the dark crevices of the mind. You can blow up without being unconfrontational. Then there's the whole thing about disliking someone on a level where they think you have deep unsolved hatred for them, which isn't true because you can have opinions and ideals about everyone and anyone in your personal and private life. It's that line that is drawn so clearly in the sand it's a thin line between love and dislike that you can cross so easily without even realising it. Being brave in the fact of being straightforward without fear of what anyone thinks about you afterwards is another way of having a strong backbone. It might cause disrespect to crop up, but you can apologise if you've offended a person, even if you've been unapologetically honest with them about how you feel in a certain situation. 

OMG. I did the whole getting excited thing again, and vented on and on about it. I'll give y'all some more awe-inspiring/attention-grabbing advice. Sit back and relax against those fluffy blankets and silk pillows, which are so good for curly hair or any hair type. Slip into your favourite pair of footwear (trainers, sliders. crocs, boots. and heels). Grab a loaded croissant. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Being  fearless is part of having this so-called backbone. You have to try and light a fire underneath someone without causing conflict with another person. There's a thin line between dangerous territory with disrespect and keeping your rep clean. Offending a person is always a slippery slope between taking a step forward into breaking out of your shell, and being savage in order to cause some ruckus in a positive way, even if it leads to you being passive-aggressive. You have to let out your inner beast at times in the right scenarios in order to not get put back in your lane/place, where you have to apologise for saying something you said with the intention to get someone to back down from their comments about what you're doing/not doing to be comfortable in your own environment. It's about being able to speak up for what you believe in and get some of the powerful outspoken qualities that you once had back in the palm of your hand.'

OMG. Some great advice that will keep your ears peeled for a few days. There's this thing about your/others words carrying weight and power when they're shot like arrows hitting a target. It's not about winning or losing a conversation per se. It's about getting a person to listen to your ideas/views on certain topics and whether or not these ideals and comments get taken into consideration by the adults who represent the boomer generation. We're more open to being one-upped by the Gen-Z's and millennials of our time through different levels of sass. Respect and owning the stage of life with what you say in a certain context is earnt not given or commanded by a certain group, but there's some people who just have your undivided respect no matter what cuz you've got this high level of admiration for them as a person. They're outspoken and unafraid to deal with the consequences of their words or actions that may come to bite them in the ass one day in the life of being a straightforward unfiltered person with some thought put behind their words. Yet they can take the punches that get thrown at them in the verbal sense. When you have this backbone it can become a weapon or a superpower that you wield. It's in your capable hands as to how you use it to create an impact or some type of change the world movement, or it could be to establish your voice that never gets used to it's full range, and advantage to change one life, or a bunch of people's lives. My point here would be that it's not a negative thing at the end of the day.  

Okay, I've rambled on for ages. It's back to giving y'all some awesome mind-blowing advice. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows. Snuggle underneath those warm quilted blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies, sweatshirts/joggers/T-shirt's and jeans. Grab a mocktail to sip on. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'You have to push against the risks that come with opening your vocal side. You have to figure out which rules you wanna follow or break. You have to be unafraid to step out of your mould 'cuz life isn't picture perfect and you have to pick your moment to shine and show a fiery side that can call people out on their bluffs. You have to go against everything you know sometimes and give people the hard truths that they don't wanna hear even if trouble follows you like a caution sign.'

MAN! That was some solid hard-hitting advice. I gotta follow in it's footsteps right? You have to be able to be you to the fullest to be able to show your fullest potential. I'll give you a quote to chew on. It goes along the lines of:

 'I've got to move on and be who I am. I hope you understand.'

(From the song Gotta Go My Own Way- High School Musical 2.)

Hope y'all read this with an open mind.

Enjoy.

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