OFFENDING A PERSON

 Hey fellow bookworms,

Offense VS defense. There's a thin line written in the sand between them, and when you offend a person there's all kinds of verbal blowback that you're not ready for. Opinions and ideas can offend a person. The bare-faced ugly brutal truths that you don't wanna hear can affect another person when you use them on them. It's like a ping pong match where there's a winner and a loser. There's the written word on a page that can offend a  person to the literal bare-knuckled punch to the gut verbal word that can piss a person off. Once you've set foot over an invisible bridge of things you've said or done there's no going back if a person is in the deep well of offended. Then you've gotta deal with the crossfire of texts and voice notes from the person that has been offended if you're living in the digital age. You Boomer's out there don't need to worry about that last part. When shit goes sideways there's always drama and action, you can't always be the offender or offended, you've gotta be the bigger person who doesn't think they're above anyone or better than anyone.

I'll stop going on a long tirade for now and give y'all some awe-inspiring advice and guidance. Sit tight and stay glued to those screens. Relax against those fluffy pillows and blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies, sweatshirts/joggers/T-shirts and jeans. Grab some chocolate Ferrero Roche cake to gobble up. Listen loud and crystal clear:

Don't show a person that their words are getting to you. You can never show a person how broken you are by their words. It shouldn't be the right thing to back down and apologise for offending a person when others words have the power to shoot an arrow to the heart. You have to shovel through the trench of trouble that you think you've dug by offending a person  to decide whether you're gonna wallow in the pit of self-doubt when a person tells you the most difficult things that have you sipping from the fountain of regret.'

Sheesh! A hell of advice that is interpretive for you to turn into your own motivation to keep moving forward. Offending someone isn't your intention, but when you hear another person's voice laced with worries and pain. You don't mean to snap at a person it's just a defense mechanism to act tough to get a person off your case when you're feeling attacked cuz you're reeling back into your shell from words that you can't stand up to. Regret catches up to you and you just wanna go back to rewind the clock and revisit a moment though conversation and heartfelt apologies that make you feel worthless and ungrateful when you owe your life to someone. It's not about caring or making someone uncomfortable, it's about caring too deeply that your heart squeezes in your chest until it does a squishy flip flop that makes you nauseous until you turn into an emotional wreck.

Ooh. I rambled crazily. I'll give y'all some more awesome mind-blowing advice. Sit back and relax against all the cushions and blankets of your blanket forts. Slip into your favourite kicks/trainers/crocs/fluffy slippers/fuzzy socks/heels. Grab some spicy rice crackers to hoover up. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'It's so hard to hear the things that make your skin crack and crawl. There's always a person who can get under your skin that  makes you question everything about yourself. Don't let them and their opinions change everything about your awesome self. You should be allowed to be comfortable in your skin around your environment. You can be mentally messed up when a person tears your tower of confidence into a thousand shreds of rubble. No one deserves to have that confidence and bravado be taken away from them.'

Whoa. I'd love someone to tell me this. It's about finding a common ground and using the ballsy move of asking someone to meet you in the middle. You never wanna cause the waterfall of sadness to overtake a person's mind and soul. The soul can be a dark thing and when someone hurts you whether it's intentional or not it's like your whole world comes crashing to a stop so you can process it all. It's all about rising above it all to grow into a boss and be on that next level that no one can compare themselves to. You can't always fit into the mould of perfection  You have to stand up for what you believe in and be heard instead of being told to shut up or be quiet even if your ideas and comments offend someone else. You have to try and have the upper hand sometimes so you can shine in the spotlight of tension.

I went on and on again. I'll give y'all some more advice that will be life or earth changing. Sit back and relax against those headboards. Stay glued to your screens. Grab some of your favourite chocolate to chomp on. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and sweatshirts/joggers/T-shirts and shorts. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Opening up a can of intense worms doesn't help anyone. It just causes the mountain of problematic issues to crop up. You have to suck it all up and take a deep breath and talk it out with a person if they think you've left a strong vibe that doesn't sit well with them even if you do get offended. The voice in your vocal cords matters even if a person thinks you've got a strong hatred towards them when you don't. It can just mean you're stressing about other things and take it out on them.'

MAN! That was some sweet advice. It's about a few things other than hurting a person and thinking you're not offending them on purpose. It's about being straight up with a person and finding your outer voice in a safe space. There's a quote that goes along the lines of:

'Wait a minute get my head in the game.'

(High School Musical 1).

I'll leave y'all to chew on one last piece of golden advice. Sit back and relax. Grab a mini brownie to munch on. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'You have to tell it like it is. Find your backbone and say the things on your chest without fear of sinking in the quicksand of trouble. You have to have bravery to challenge a person until they see your point.'

Enjoy.

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