INDEPENDENCE IN MANY WAYS

 Hey John Wick fans,

This is a complex subject. It can make you feel strongly about it. Being an independent person is many things apart from doing housework. It can be education and work. Achieving a small task can make you independent. There's not one specific definition. I'm not telling y'all to open a dictionary, but this isn't worth making anyone feel less than they are. It can cause the doomed conflict that you're not even looking for. It can make a person triggered to the point of anxiety about who they are as a person, whether they're adequate or not. It can mean the difference of being the hero or villain in a person's storyline. Also, it can being up the thin line between love and dislike. I think you can dislike a person, but not hate them with a passion. Yeah, a person can become prickly when it comes to independence, when you're quite an independent person without knowing how to do most aspects of housework. Travelling by yourself can be a step in the right direction, but having an overprotective male figure in your life whether it's a parent or brother can make you have reservations about going to a different country on your own. There's certain rules about that in the religion of Islam cuz you gotta have a male to take you to another country. Also going out with a friend or on the bus is a step in independence. 

Okay I rambled on for time. I'll give y'all some awesome mind-altering advice. Sit back and relax against those fluffy blankets and pillows that you snuggle up with. Slip into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies, sweatshirts/joggers/T-shirts and shorts. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Start small. Do the washing up or make your bed. Do it for yourself and do it to prove someone wrong who's always on your back about independence so they can get off your back. It's like a mountain of issues just might slide off your back and turn into a puddle of nothingness. You have to do it to find your confidence when it gets taken out of your reach until all the layers of your protective armour are stripped back and you can let the real you slip through the cracks of your walls.'

OMG. This advice is too good. Being independent is about not letting other's  worry about yourself cuz them worrying shows you the cold hard truths that hit you like a bucket of ice cold water spraying you until you're soaked with the waterfall of dangerous darkened emotion. It breaks you until you don't know how to build yourself back up into that bubbly/fearless/straightforward happy-go-lucky persona that thrives on confidence and praise from those who are in the inner circle who know how deeply you feel and can be affected by a single soul who knows how to hurt you with the scenarios from the past that you've finally gotten over and boxed it up in the dark recesses of your mind. Being independent can be standing on your own two feet and not caring about what other people think about you whether you're sticking to the status quo of perfection. Nobody should be compared to another person because independence can be you striking out on your own and conquering the brave new world on your own.

I'll stop going on a venting spree and give y'all some more mind-changing advice. Sit back and relax in those pillow and blanket forts that you've created. Slide into your favourite pair of kicks/trainers/sliders/fuzzy socks/fluffy slippers/crocs/heels/sandals. Grab a bowl of popcorn. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Independence can be finding yourself and going on a path that destiny is leading you towards. It's about you being able to go after the things you wanna do to make others stop pointing a finger at you when you're just trying to assert yourself to take some type of initiative to be able to rely on yourself without anyone giving you their critique or disappointment in your journey of self-sufficiency. Grabbing opportunity in your hand is a step in the right direction to make your life worthwhile and fuller.'

Sheesh! That was some awesome advice I'd give you that. Don't be tempted to follow others' footsteps in the sand after they've left their mark or impression on the world. Be your own person and stick out of the crowd to stand out so you'll be noticeable when you make some sort of achievement. Make yourself a figure of inspiration to those who have doubts about how far you've come on your own. Progress should be acknowledged in a positive way instead of being a dark force to be reckoned with. You don't have to be a trailblazer or anything, but you can take it slowly at your own pace without anyone's approval except for your own. Yeah, you'll have certain role models to look up to on the road to establishing yourself as a self-made individual, so learn from them, but make your own mistakes along the path to being independent.

I've rambled again. Look at that! I'll lay down some more words of wisdom on the table. Sit back and relax in those air mattresses of yours. Slip into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and sweatshirts/joggers/T-shirts and jeans. Grab a tube of your favourite flavour of Pringles to munch on. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Don't feel bad if you get upset when someone takes you downtown to the town of lectureville if they think you're not doing the whole independence gig right. Just follow your instincts and figure out which direction you wanna go in. You don't need to be one of those Queen Bee work-aholics when it comes to housework, but it helps to know you're doing your best to make a person proud of you. You have to be able to push yourself out of your comfort zone when it comes to being self-improved. Make your own impressions and mark on the world, to show a person you're not invisible.'

SAY WHAT? That's a hell of a lot of advice that's great and all. There's this one quote that goes along the lines of:

'I'm Supergirl. Who's gonna save me now?'

(From The Princess Diaries).

It's about not crumbling under all this pressure to meet this high bar of perfection that you have to aspire to meet, but it's okay to be your own messy extroverted imperfect one-of-a-kind original self. You can be anything you wanna be. Most importantly, burst out of your shell and send all these walls you've built around you crashing down to turn into the new and improved independent version of yourself. You can only sink or swim. In this book called I'll Give You The Sun there's a line that goes along the lines of:

'It's a sink or swim world Noah.'

One last piece of advice that will change your world is:

'Learn how to find a life raft to catch on to when you need help. Find a person who you can open up to. Trust is everything, a step to independence is knowing how to move on from a specific moment that has torn your spirit apart and getting over it will help in your quest to independence. Learn to figure out how to push and shove a past memory back into the dark corner of your mind to move past it and find your own people and learn to look forward to a brighter future or a light at the end of a dark tunnel.'

I'll leave y'all to chew on that thought.

Enjoy.

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