BEING IN THE PRESENCE OF A BEAST

 Hey Anger from Inside Out 1 and 2,

We all have these inner demons and triggers that make us turn into that Disney character the Beast from Beauty and the Beast. We try to not be the spoiled prince who didn't know how to love and be loved in return until a random enchantress magics us into a terrible beast full of ugliness. The volatile volcanic anger wrecks the whole world. It takes away the confidence and fearless bravado that others' try so hard to build. All those insecurities that are buried deep under the layers of who we are get stirred up in another person when they can't handle the brutal truths about how they talk down to a person. We poke the beast with our words of blurted out thought and the eye of the storm unleashes and you've walked into unchartered territory. It's hard to not break apart in the sweat of anxiety when you've dipped your toe in the whirlpool of interference, it'll come back to bite you in the ass. Having a backbone and fighting back in an assertive way only fans the flames of an already fuelled fire. You'll always find yourself in a lose-lose situation with the beast in the haze of it's temper tantrum. There's no second chance with the beast. When it comes out you're screwed up to another level. 

I'll stop rambling now and give y'all some mind-blowing, earth-shattering advice. Sit back and relax against those silk pillows that are great for your hair straight or curly. Slip into your favourite set of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and joggers/T-shirts and shorts. Grab a bar of Fruit and Nut chocolate. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Some say it's best to keep quiet to not trigger the beast or set it off. Being silent and keeping your voice trapped under lock and key is the best way to go. It's not. You have to take all these risks even if the beast takes your confidence and self-esteem and crushes it into a grain of nothingness. Even if you're crushed under the weight of the red-hot magma of the anger that's coming at you in the unstoppable wave of a tornado blasting you to shreds you have to have a spark that doesn't extinguish to ashes and dust even if the beast uses hulk strength to take you down.'

That was some awesome advice. Even when you're cornered and feeling the rush of vulnerability wash over you until it lets the waves of terror and sadness overpower any rational thought when you need to answer the unanswerable questions about how much you've sunk in the quicksand of trouble. Your lips get dry and no sound comes out of your dry sandpapery throat. You feel your heart beating a million miles a minute until it's gonna jump out of your ribcage cuz it's racing like Toretto in The Fast and Furious franchise. Your heart slams in your ribcage until it's gonna burst like a balloon. White hot fear makes your blood run colder than the North Pole. Your breaths are stuck in your chest and it tightens like a fist squeezing the life out of you. Anxiety and panic attacks you until it holds you hostage in a no man's land of attacks.

I rambled on for too long. I'll get back to giving y'all stellar one of a kind unique advice that'll blow your minds to outer space. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows and blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies, sweatshirts/joggers/T-shirts and jeans. Grab a slice of chocolate hazelnut cake. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Fear shouldn't rule you until you become a shell of your former badass self. The one that was so straight up that took no prisoners with that rude banter back in the day. You have to become that warrior self that you keep under wraps and be fearless even if you unleash the tornado that is like the beast in that movie that I talked about in the intro of this blog. You have to speak your minds and not be afraid to get caught up in the hellish destruction of another person's unbridled rage that can make you wanna trip down a rabbit hole like Alice in that movie Alice in Wonderland. Yeah you'll have to face all these ugly truths about how much of a callous, unfeeling, disappointing person you are, but sometimes the savageness that you're painted as isn't the truth, you can be so much more than that.'

OOH. Another top tier piece of advice if I do say so myself. You have to look in the mirror and get over these messed up parts of a person that you can see through the five year old tantrums they have. You have to be be able to be comfortable in your own skin even if you're feeling unworthy or doubtful of being yourself without a fault. The most level-headed person can flip their lid and lose control in a split second when they feel the blow of the cold hard truth of a statement hit them like a bucket of cold ice water. It's about apologising in the heat of the moment even if you haven't been in the wrong side of the trench of trouble that you've dug or are digging. It's also about using those therapeutic techniques you've learnt in times of anxiety or panic, such as breathing or writing or drawing or even trying to put distance between yourself and an aggressor. They might not work all the time, but when they do work you can make yourself or a person who's tapping into their fellow rage-a-thon to be as cool as a cucumber in mere seconds.

I've rambled on for ages now. I'll get back to giving y'all some untapped potential in giving great life-changing advice that will rock your world. Sit back and relax against those pillow/blanket forts you've created from imagination turned into a fascination. Slip on your go to kicks/sliders/fluffy slippers/fluffy socks/crocs/heels/boots. Grab a McVities Club chocolate bar to munch on. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Sometimes to tame the beasts words of confidence shattering/self esteem dumping to an all time low, you have to just hear their utter word vomit and answer all their unanswerable questions while they put you in the hotseat of shame and embarrassment until your face is on fire to the point where you're wishing the ground would open up and swallow you up in the lair of monsters in Moana 1. You have to stand your ground and not let all those complicated unanalysed emotions come to the surface when you know your humanity is being stomped on cuz no one should make you question who you are when you already know who you are on a deep dark level.'

Yikes. Some awe-inspiring advice. I'd try and take that one, but this is for y'all to digest and think deeply about. Seriously, you need to find your inner Belle and befriend the beast by being friendly and showing through all your actions that you're an amazing, beautiful, original, unique person who thinks for themselves with a strong independent mind and isn't afraid to challenge the inner beast of another person even if they're pushing buttons that aren't supposed to be pushed. Or crossing lines that shouldn't be crossed into unknown lava monster Takkah territory; until you have to find that inner peace and connection on another level with a person so the lava monster can turn into Tafiti the beautiful island goddess woman. (References are from the awesome Disney movie Moana). Being Dauntless brave might help you survive some of the wrath that comes your way. You can be reckless and say the craziest comments on your mind that say how you feel about a person, but if you make some type of ruckus then all hell breaks loose and a earthquake explosion off the richter scale happens. It could be a 101.5 in the epicentre of riling a person up.

Geez Louise. Really went on a deep dive to the ocean floor on that one. I'll give y'all some more awe-inspiring/jaw-dropping advice. Sit back and relax against those pillows and blankets. Slide into your favourite team jersey or it could be a shirt from a band or TV show you're obsessed with. Grab a tube of Pringles to scoff, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'Everyone has this temper that runs a dark fire through their veins, but you have to channel yours in a positive force. Other people's can spill over and be an uncontrollable cloud, which fogs their brains up for a second, but after it passes all should be a-OK, but it's not. Irreversible damage can be done to a person's spirit that causes the bright light of confidence and savageness to dim down to the darkened path of stress. Maybe figuring out how to find ways to talk it out or find balance and inner peace from the Kung Fu Panda franchise can help a person to really connect with the sincerity of a real heartfelt apology that's not all about them.'

Whoa. I'll give y'all a chance to chew on that piece of advice. I'll leave you with a piece of a quote that I really connect to. It goes along the lines of:

'Well you should learn to control your temper!'

(Belle from Beauty and the Beast.)

I'll leave y'all to stay glued to your screens and take all this information sink in.

Enjoy.

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