GETTING TOLD YOU'RE STICKING UP FOR THE WRONG PERSON

 Hey Crazy Kitten Lovers, 

Watching things about gang life is one thing, but getting sprung on like a cat wired up to pounce on a helpless defenseless mouse isn't what you signed up for while gobbling food on your kitchen table in your king/queen seat. It gets turned into the generalisation of the thing, when you don't even know why you're in the proverbial hotseat for no apparent reason. When all you've done is taken the safe route to not be classed in the category of being a trailblazer in creating chaos and trouble that you're sinking into like quicksand. You dig your own trench by being 'too much.' You wish the ground would open up and swallow you whole cuz you're deeply embarrassed about why you've advocated for the wrong person when you care deeply about both person in your big complicated heart that can take a few hits here and there and it can be worn on a sleeve and be pounding in your chest cavity like a drum going out of control.. 

Okay I'll get out of this insanity of rambling for way too long and get into the golden nugget of advice that will change your minds. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows and snuggle in those quilted blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/kaftans/hoodies and joggers/ t-shirts and shorts. Grab a packet of Quavers or Curlers as they're called to gobble. Listen loud and crystal clear: 

'It's about being as neutral as possible. Channel your major poker face.. Be able to just be super busy gobbling your food even if you're super uncomfortable,  be able to steel yourself with your shoulders back and head held slightly higher than necessary like the king/queen you can be. Maybe channel your inner Mafia Boss vibes from those dark romances you read online and keep talking and giving examples of how you've been in a person's corner when people should be in your corner and be going to verbal wars on your behalf in a metaphorical sense.'

Sheesh. Some mad advice. It's about knowing the other person is coming from a genuinely good place, but you're just trying to live the anxiety free life without the stress of always causing the storm cloud of ruckus that isn't even supposed to happen in your surroundings, but it does once or twice. Being able to have someone's back who you love/like forever is an amazing once-in-a-lifetime skill you can have cuz you gotta have a tight inner circle of people who you can trust and not be afraid to be your authentic/unapologetic self around. You don't need to worry about being careful even if you're not good at figuring out banter like 80 percent of the time, but they just accept you for being who you are as an individual while having mad unwavering respect and deep emotion and care for you for who you are and not a person who keeps on dipping their toe above an invisible line that you don't know how to cross or uncross once you've said your piece and left it lingering in the air like a storm cloud to get ideas and points across in your straightforward  jefe like way with no nonsense. 

OOH. I rambled on for time there, but I'll get back to the topic at hand and lay down a mountain full of advice that will send you spiralling into  the whirlpool of positivity right about now. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillow and blanket forts that you've made with that next level creativity that leads to worlds of imagination turned into a fascination. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/kaftans/hoodies and joggers/t-shirts and jeans. Grab some of your favourite sugary sour sweets to munch on and listen loud and crystal clear: 

'It's about figuring out who to pick out in the sea of people you know that you can stick up for without playing it smart and being on the literal chessboard/noughts and crosses cuz you can sacrifice your meagre pawn for people who will stand behind you and have your back and won't really tell you too much about why and how you've stuck up for the wrong person when you were just literally alive and awake from the deep snoring REM sleep you just had. You have to find people who will let you chill while being a vault for them so they can leave the literal book of trust in your hands with the yellowed frayed pages filled with their words said in confidence.' 

Yikes. A big chunk of advice that was awesome in its own special way that really hits the loaded arrow of words into your bleeding heart or dark crumbling soul that's a work in progress. There's not a long list of rules about who you can advocate for if you're just trying to find the good in people who are overlooked/underestimated even if you know one person is there for you all the time it's not in your intention to throw the person into the literal waterfall of upset and make people feel bad. It's more about people you feel comfortable around to be the ultimate version of yourself that can let go and bare their flaws and real unguarded self to that counts on the road to find the people who will go to battle for you and stand behind you like an army of soldiers who will be there for you when you need advice or guidance or just to let the wave of red-hot volcanic lava-like anger out so you can vent if you're feeling unsettled or abnormal in the tiny spaces you've carved out for yourself to be comfortable in your skin and be able to burst out of your shell of shyness or silence and let your voice roar like a lioness/lion over the wide square footage of your environment until your opinion is heard. 

Alright. I've rambled on for ages now. I'll get back to the nitty gritty of the subject at hand and give y'all some powerful soul-shattering advice that will leave you shaken to the core. Sit back and relax against those comfy office chairs while you're staring at those double or triple monitors. Slide into your favourite team merch and grab a hot cup of mint tea to sip or chug. Listen loud and crystal clear: 

'It's about filling the silence with your profound paragraph of words filled with wisdom and pure brilliance that you can't take back cuz a person will be positively affected by what you've gotta say and how you're articulating your words that pack a punch and get people hooked on the times that you're brave enough to be a hero and say your piece with the blazing inferno of courage that sometimes you're not sure you've got a handle on but you're willing to try and get your deep swirling tornado of emotions in check before you lay down the law with your powerful words that make a person stop in their tracks and really take in your awesomeness that lights you up with happiness from the inside out cuz you've tapped into the real you that's hidden under the layers of the cocoon that you wrap yourself up in to be able to shine the spotlight of the wonderfall flower blossoming into something beautiful.' 

A whole paragraph of advice there to sink in like quicksand when you're causing some type of mayhem with your words when you're advocating on behalf of a person or just having their back cuz they've got you and understand you on a level that others can't reach if they're too busy trying to pick up the puzzle pieces of an amazing person who's trying to fit into the orbit of being who they are and who they're meant to be. Be a trailblazer and leave behind legendary vibes that make people wanna stare at you in awe and have slack jawed expressions when you breeze past them in a room where you're just dipping your toe in the realm of relaxation and rejuvenation.

OKAY. I rambled for a short time there, but I'll get back to giving y'all one last little bit of advice. Sit back against those huge blanket forts you've made. Slide into your favourite pair of trainers/chucks/crocs/fluffy slippers/fluffy socks. Grab a Racer-bar to gobble and listen loud and crystal clear: 

'It's about turning all that ruckus in your brain into literal white noise. Filter it all out until you're breathing in deep breaths that are expelling all the negative vibes into the deep recesses of your mind. Let yourself go into a quiet space and just scream out all the negative energy into the dark abyss of the things you wanna leave behind you and just move on into being that bright bubbly version of yourself once again.' 

Alright I'll let y'all chew on that and give y'all a quote along the lines of: 

'Strong people stand up for themselves, but stronger people stand up for others'-Suzy Kassem

Another quote I think you should mull over in those big beautiful complicated minds of yours goes along the lines of: 

'What's the point of having a voice if you're gonna be silent in those moments you shouldn't be?'- Angie Thomas. 

Enjoy.

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P.S. This is purely about the experience of the thing not a single human being.