MISSING A LOVED ONE WHO'S LEFT YOU BEHIND IN THE WORLD

 Hey Crazy Cat Lovers,

You're sucked into the shallow pool of shock, you're not sure that your ears heard news that will forever change you as a person. You can move on but still feel a gaping hole in the middle of your torn bleeding heart where a final shard of grief is sitting buried between the aching muscle. The person who made your world bright and filled with colour/love/laughter has gone from the world that is spinning on a 360 degree angle. You're left with the wallowing pit of despair that hides you in the dark waterfall of sadness as agony rips though the windows to your soul. (Refers to eyes). Tears cling to your lashes like tiny crystalline raindrops, then the metaphorical dam breaks and they soak your face like rain sticking to a window. Your person who was your ride or die, your confidant, the one who was always fighting in your corner no matter what is not there any more. You're left with a whole movie reel of memories that live on in your mind like a looped CCTV camera. But life moves on and you realise you gotta be prepared for anything. 

They've been buried under the earth and mud, you'll talk about that person for a long time to come. They say 'every soul has to taste death.' Well it's really a line from the Holy Quran. Another line that comes to mind here is 'Death doesn't discriminate.' You can miss a person every day, yet still pray that they're at peace and their suffering has ended. You can still be lost in the abyss of sadness for however long you need to process it. Healing takes time. Figuring out how to patch up the bleeding scars that are left after a person who was your entire world leaves you in this world can take time, it's not overnight, it can take a few days, months or years. You have to find the strength to claw your way up from the cold unfeeling ground, and get back up to fight another day and try not to crumble into the rubble of sadness. 

You're hit for six because you didn't see it coming. It can definitely knock the air out from your lungs. Taking a deep breath in feels like you're inhaling literal fire, but you push on cuz there's your people in the world who need you so they can lean on you in tough times. Yeah, one day you'll be reunited with that person in the highest place in paradise, but you pray with all the sincerity in your heart that they'll reach that highest place in paradise first. It's a shock to the system, but when you're left in the ruins of grief, you can't imagine what that person's family is going through. You have to be their anchor in these times when they're at their most lowest vulnerable point in life to show them that you'll be there for whatever they need. 

Some advice that will make you feel better. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows and blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and joggers/kaftans/t-shirts and shorts. Grab some watermelon to munch on. Listen loud and crystal clear: 

'You have to be the person's rock. You don't need to give them a whole elaborate speech, you can just be there for them and give them a hug. It'll make all the difference. You'll feel the pain for some time, but looking forward to something small can make you remember the person that they wanted you to be, so be the best version of them and aspire to be like them in this world.'

Here's a quote I'd like to leave you guys to chew on:

'You never really stop missing someone-you just learn to live around the huge gaping hole of their absence.'- Alyson Noel. 

Enjoy.

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