GETTING CHEWED OUT IN THE FRONT SEAT OF A CAR

 Hey OMITB Fans,

You're on the sliding scale of thin ice, when you recklessly run across a slippery slope of being stupidly brave and doing the dumbest shit in the book. You're not reaching the bar of high expectations that crush you like the shattered glass of your crumbling tower of confidence. You're stuck in the whirlpool of crippling anxiety that crushes your chest wall, and creeps into your descending and ascending aorta until you're gasping from shortness of breath, and you're drowning in the disappointment shown in teh windows to the soul of another person's eyes as they view you in the bad books. You're choking on saliva that doesn't have anywhere to go, because your mouth is as dry as the Sahara Desert while you're answering questions that are flying at you in rapid succession with the flames of red hot fury, while the person is fuming at you to give them a billion and one reasons. You forget to breathe and get all panicked and start screaming lines that will or won't be acceptable. Then you can't even dip your toe in the pool of sadness and bawl your eyes out as the salty tears that drip down your cheeks like rain sliding down a windscreen, since that will make matters worse and back you up against the ropes of defeat where you don't have anyone in your corner to back you up and diffuse the tension that cuts a room like a metaphorical knife. 

OH HELL TO THE YES! That was some hard-hitting chunks of a paragraph. Let's get  into the grit and mind-altering/planet-changing advice that I'm gonna lay down on the  table. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows and blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and joggers/kaftans/t-shirts and jeans. Grab some Fruit and Nut chocolate to munch on. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Blocking out all the noise is hard especially if someone is getting all up in your personal space and getting pissed off at you for no apparent reason if you've not stirred the pot of trouble. Digging your trench of trouble isn't always negative cuz you have to figure out it's not your fault so instead of hyperventilating and panicking take deep breaths and try to not answer all the questions that you can't answer. It's not rude or insensitive if you ignore all the messed up parts of yourself to focus on the realm of calming down, but it's okay to start blubbering and crying if you don't know how to control a situation.'

Whoa, that was a heavy bit of advice. It cuts deep when you're not being heard when it's not even your fault if you're not ready to roll on time to a place if a little human is present in your life at that time. Then the big bad elephant in the room comes to bite you in the ass literally when you do the dumbest stuff like racing across a road to rush since you've been waiting a super long time. The person takes their frustration and anger out on you, which shouldn't even happen in the first place and you try and defend yourself when the bullets fired in terms of words hitting you like ammo pierce through your broken self-esteem and the rubble of your confidence that was holding you together like glue just snaps and your panicked sentences don't really make sense as they mix together and fall on deaf ears. 

Yeah, I rambled on for ages. I'll get back to giving y'all some awe-inspiring mind-changing advice. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows with the quilted blankets that you're snuggling up with. Slide into your favourite pair of PJ's/loungewear/kaftans/hoodies and joggers/t-shirts and jeans. Grab a Racerbar to munch on. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Figure out a million different strategies to fight back without dipping your toe further in the quicksand of despair and floundering in the deepest pit of not knowing what to do. Stop answering questions about understanding and use your words to contradict the point until you're fighting tooth and nail to stop the onslaught of the beast that is coming at your full force like a raging bull. Try and be stupidly brave and get past the fear that roots you to the spot when it's not even your fault in the first place.'

Yeah that was some food for thought right there. Maybe causing trouble wasn't your intention, but when that traumatic incident is brought up again and you don't have the willpower or strength to relive it cuz you're trying to get over it you need some kind of verbal backup when you've taken a backseat and are trying to hide back in your shell to protect yourself from going through the flashback loop of that time where you regret messing up. Don't do that to yourself find a person who will back you up so you can have a chance to step back from this series of events that has set you a billion steps back from being okay and dipping your body back into the whirlpool of anxiety where the mind is giving you scenarios that shouldn't be in your mind's eye. 

Ooh. I got into it too deeply there. I'll get back to the jaw-dropping advice that'll give y'all some sense of relief from this mind-numbing panic that stops you in your tracks. Sit back and relax against those pillows and blankets you'll need. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/kaftans/hoodies and joggers/t-shirts and shorts. Grab some crispy roti to munch on. Listen loud and crystal clear: 

'Don't worry about all the waves of terror that overcome you when you're shaken up. Be crazy and use your roaring lion/lioness voice to chew the person out when they've taken time to realise that they've hurt you in ways that you can't come back from on a verbal level. Words have the power to crush you like arrows piercing your carefully crafted wall that is built as high as teh sky, when you let it crumble to trust and let people in and it's not worked to be able to be okay you've gotta hide behind it and lick the verbal wounds for a while until the other person has the courage to apologise because you can't keep building bridges for them to end up in flames the next second.'

OMG. A paragraph of advice right there. It's a hard thing to place your turst in someone when they keep breaking your confidence so much like getting character bashings from people who you thought had your back. It's hard to simply 'get over things' but you have to in order to find a bit of peace among the cracks on the outside. Patching it all up takes time and effort, but you can try and get back to the version of yourself that you love and appreciate again to find some solace in this life. 

I'll get back to giving y'all one last nugget of advice that y'all can hold on to. Sit back and relax against  those comfy chairs. Slide into your favourite pair of chucks or fluffy slippers. Grab some rice crackers to munch on. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Don't be ashamed to cry even if it annoys the person ripping you a new one. People telling you to stop crying is making a situation worse if you're upset you gotta let the dam break and just be able to be weak. If you're not able to be vulnerable and really feel the waterfall of sadness what's the point of getting comfortable with your emotions? being real and raw shouldn't make you inferior to a person it makes you better than the person who's shouting cuz they don't know how  to channel and process emotion like you do. Falling apart and stitching yourself back together is a strength not a weakness.'

Wow. I'll leave y'all to chew on that. I'll leave you with a quote along the lines of:

'Be yourself. Raw and unfiltered.'- Pinterest.

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