DOUBLE STANDARDS BETWEEN A BRO AND A SIS

 Hey Never Have I Ever Fans,

It's an Asian thing, so y'all might not understand it all the time. This is more a cultural thing in the South-Asian Diaspora out there in the typical Asian household. Being a girl means you gotta be next-level perfect at everything, whereas if you're a boy you are treated like the royalty of the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air. The mandem is like a prince in the yard, not having to lift a finger with those Asian grannies out there, so when you as a girl raise your voice and suspicions about this, you get told to leave the boy alone right? You can't chat about when you were in the deep trenches of studying for uni you had to still help in the kitchen and house. There's a line drawn in the sand, which gets blurred when it comes to gals and guys in the diaspora. If you're a guy you get to rush off a table into your room.

Ooh. I rambled on there, and got all passionate about this. I'll give y'all some mind-changing/jaw-dropping advice. Sit back in those comfy chairs and grab those pillows and fluffy blankets that y'all love to snuggle in. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and joggers/t-shirts and jeans. Grab a slice of chocolate cake to gobble. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Raising your roaring lioness voice and challenging this ideal of boys being let off the hook when it comes to housework will get you to dig your trench of trouble and get the 'chillies in the gob' line, but it's worth it to risk it all and dip your toe in the quicksand of trouble to get your point across and say what's on your mind about the person who isn't helping in the yard. Yes you'll get shut down and it'll get seen as resentment of a person, when it's really not, it's about making sure special treatment isn't given to one and that the boundaries of equality isn't pushed to the limit. Sharing examples of when you've been chased down to help and came when you've been called shouldn't get you in that ditch of fuelling a fire that hasn't even risen that much.'

Yeesh. That is a lot of golden advice. The divide isn't small, it's a huge chasm that doesn't happen once or twice it's an everyday thing. You can't be getting on the battlefield or chessboard of arguing your case when it comes to questioning WHY or HOW a person shouldn't be able to run away from obligation and initiative to be doing their part to contribute to a factory of helping hands. Why is it all up to the girl siblings to be doing almost everything, and getting the lecture of being 'jealous' when it comes to telling a boy sibling that he's capable to cleaning his bedroom? That's a conundrum that once cannot wrap their minds around. 

I'll stop rambling now and get back to the topic of the matter at hand. I'll lay down that awesome life-changing, earth-shattering advice that will turn your world on its axis. Sit back and relax against those pillow forts. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and joggers/t-shirts and shorts. Grab a mini brownie to munch on. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Standing up for yourself is seen as giving attitude when you're looking out for number 1 'cuz no one is in your corner cuz they've flown to the next side of the world. You have to be able to fight for your fellow Asian sisters who are filling the shoes of those great females before them who have flown the nest to a different country. Be able to grow into yourself and be confident and just build yourself back up when you've been knocked down a few inches cuz your mouth is going a mile a minute, but you've gotta come into your brightness when you've been in another's shadow way too long.'

OY OY OY! Some mad advice there. It's about being able to bridge the gap between being able to be equal and seeing the inequality between you and a male sibling when they can get away with not pitching in cuz they've been cut too much slack since they're stuck in an education system. When you pick out the unfairness of it all and pick out the messed-up strings of it all, you get told to reign in the negativity and the putting another person down, when you're simply pointing out the injustices of it all. Yeah, any of you who are lawyered up in this department please give me some tips and tricks and a huge shout-out to y'all for it. It's about making yourself step out in the spotlight and be heard even if it hits a wall and doesn't work while you're trying to make the diaspora equal so everyone's ideals and voices matter in the big spiralling issue of it all. 

Ooh. I rambled on there way too much. I'll get back to giving y'all the inspirational mind-numbing, taking-the-world on at once advice. Sit back and relax against those pillows and blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/sweatshirts and joggers/t-shirts and jeans/kaftans. Grab some sticky wings to chow down on. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'There's a difference between being flat-out exhausted to being full of energy and helping out. Lighting the spark of bravery while getting on a person's nerves or even hitting a nerve should make you feel like you're making a step in the right direction even if you're dropping a verbal bomb on a person.'

Some short, but effective advice right there. Being able to challenge the archaic old-school values of girl's being the ones to clean and cook is stereotypical at it's finest, they can do more than that, they can be awesome world class writers to world leaders in the blink of an eye. It's about pushing the boundaries of the subject and widen your world to do things that make change and impact the diaspora in a positive way.

I'll give y'all one last little nugget of advice. Sit back and relax. Slide into your favourite pair of kicks or fluffy slippers. Grab a bowl of nacho's and salsa. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Level up and get on a level with other people about this. It's about building yourself up in the best light. Be able to step out of your mould and be outstanding and a thousand percent YOU. Whatever version of that, will get you to be confident and speak your mind about this dilemma in the diaspora. Take real action to inspire change.'

I'll leave y'all with a quote to chew on along the lines of:

'You're an original. An individual. A masterpiece. Celebrate that; don't let your uniqueness make you shy. Don't be someone other than the wonder you are. Every star is important in the sky.'- Google Search. 

Enjoy.

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