ON DEFENSE/SIGHING

 Hey awesome The Next Step fans,

Being on defense isn't a good look in other people's eyes. This is the number 1 way to dig your trench from England to no-man's-land. Sighing is the way to go to relieve your stress and pent up anxiety, it's a great technique to calm down through letting your breath go, but it can land you deep in the swirling whirlpool of trouble that you attract like a moth to a flame. Cliche analogy much? Yeah, but letting your inner teen out can be a cover for keeping your guard up and not letting anyone barrel through it and smash all your defensive bravado to the ground, until you're left vulnerable and open to getting punched in the gut, by so many words that you don't even know how to handle while all the conflict comes flying at you like a ton of bricks. Standing up for yourself/advocating on behalf of yourself to appear confident and have high self-esteem isn't gonna work when you're being ambushed left right and centre by people who are classed as 'the elders' in life. It's about backing down and turning yourself into a vault of silence, cuz it's expensive and worth a lot. Having a ping pong batting match of words isn't gonna land you on the victory tour of being in someone's good books. You're like those rogue spies on the run looking over your shoulder every five seconds cuz you know sighing is gonna cost you in the worst way possible.

I'll stop rambling, and lay down some awesome mind-changing, earth-eclipsing advice. Sit back and relax against those comfy office chairs. Slide into your favourite pair of fancy footwear. Listen to those tracks that you're blasting in your headphones. Grab a Brunch Bar to munch on. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'You have to find your inner voice and channel it while someone is giving you a life-altering telling to. Just close you eyes, strap in for the bumpy rollercoaster ride of emotions, so just have that neutral poker face on and don't crack, cuz that will break you into a world of misunderstandings and conflict that you don't wanna land in cuz it'll open up a can of worms that you just don't wanna dip your toe into. Go to your safe space inside that big beautiful maze of your brain and chill there until the avalanche of words just rolls right off you like water from a waterfall sliding off onto a billion rock formations.'

Sheesh! That was some mad dash saving your skin type of advice. Sometimes you sigh to get rid of all the heaviness that is sticking to your back like a shell on a turtle. Being all crazy, and letting the lava spill out until you're seeing red-hot anger shouldn't be the move that you're using to checkmate a person, YOU have to be stone cold faced, unfazed so you don't give the other person ammunition to back you into a corner like a fearful tigress. You have to backtrack and find a different angle to get back into the game of wits to outsmart your opponent in the talk or argument you're having. Be like a silent assassin in the night and strike when you know a person is gonna listen to what you have to say and take your ideas into account/consideration.

I'll dive back into the nitty gritty of it all and give y'all some gold-mine, mind-boggling, jaw-dropping advice. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows and blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and joggers/T-shirts and jeans. Grab some Mini Cheddars to gobble. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Going head to head in verbal combat shouldn't be your number 1 priority, it should be locked in the back of your mind in the dark crevices of your mind until you're able to make counter moves to get two steps ahead until you're in the safe zone. Being able to make some ballsy moves while you're trying to get a person to back down is a trait that you should have cuz words are like arrows to the chest and you have to be able to bring out your inner Katniss Everdeen at times like this. Being able to rebuild your tower of confidence back up from the ground up until it's reinforced and unbreakable is the key to overcoming conflict and finding ways to resolve it.'

Geez Louise! That wasn't too shabby. Some next level awesome advice that can make you take a second before you're already shaken up. You have to be able to figure out how you're not gonna fade into the background while you're trying to crawl out of the quicksand of being way  too drama queenly while having no one in your corner to have your back and back you up you have to just own the floor and bring your point across in a way which can be understood while you wanna burst the water balloons of tears cuz you just know you're gonna be invisible in a mere matter of seconds if you don't suck it up and take it like a tough son of a gun.

I guess I'll get back to giving you some advice that will glue the messiness back together in a few blinks of an eye. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows and quilted blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of chucks/trainers/kicks/sliders/fluffy slippers. Grab a Capri-Sun to slurp. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'You have to find the mental loopholes and find the positives in a sea of negativity. Try and take a second to snap a mental picture of how great you are before it gets distorted and smashed into smithereens. You'll just be good enough for you not anyone else. Why do you have to be a people pleaser? You have to set your own bar of imperfection as high as the clouds of daydreams and movie magic. You need to make your own footsteps in the sand for other people to follow. Make your own viva la revolutions. You need to make your own mould of perfection that's okay for you. Love yourself for who you inside and out. You're gonna be tested to different levels of how annoying you're being, but it's you being your authentic unique one-of-a-kind self. Own it.'

Whoa! Some mind-boggling advice. See there isn't much to this whole hyping yourself up thing. It's not even a bad thing if you sigh it's just to let everything that's stressing you out. It's like you've got all these messed up thoughts that get locked up in the jail cell of your mind and sighing just lets you release it all into the open space of the au natural air. It's about knowing your limit and going on defense when you can't handle the heat when you're in the hot seat of deep poop. Sometimes it's easier to retreat and come back stronger when you can find a way to meet another person in the middle. BURNING a bridge isn't a lightbulb idea that needs to be taken on the road to editing yourself too much. 

I'll stop going on and on. I'll give y'all one last piece of advice to digest. Chew on it like the gum people chew on planes. It's gonna be making you feeling world's better. Sit back and relax against those silk pillows and quilted blankets. Slide into those kaftans that are so flowy in this hot weather we're having recently in the UK. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Turn into the confident person that has battled life threatening medical situations. Step out of your cloak of invisibility and flourish into the butterfly that flutters into something beautiful. Grow and change for no one. Be Divergent.'

Another quote I got for you is:

That's it and that's all.'-FUBAR.

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