GET OVER IT AND GETTING OVER YOURSELF

 Hey Fellow Marvel Universe Fans,

This is something I'm not too sure about, but when a situation happens you need to be able to have time to  process everything on your own terms. You can have plenty of time to stew over a certain issue for however long it takes to reach some sense of normality. You might be thought of as an anomaly or a rare species of human that hasn't been discovered yet cuz everything might be in your head and you can be a crazy middle-class Asian. You're not crazy. You're a mixed bag of anxiety and a mountain of worry weighing your down until you explode like a grenade. I think it's perfectly the right amount of okay to not completely get over something too quickly. That's me though, other people just get over something like The Flash. Anyway, getting over something and yourself is hard when you don't always receive the hand of apology when you really need it. Getting over something is hard if a traumatic situation comes into play it's impossible to figure out how to slow your racing heart when it's slamming against your ribcage ready to burst out of your chest cavity. 

Okay I'll stop rambling and give y'all some awesome mind-altering advice. Sit back and relax. Grab those fluffy blankets and pillows, slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and joggers/T-shirts and shorts. Grab a huge coconut with that sweet mouthwatering water in it, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'Shit hits the fan every few times a couple of days or months it calls to you like a moth to a flame. You have to be able to not go into the panicked stage of stressed out when an attack hits you, learn to take deep breaths or walk away from a situation without being a rude queen bee. Learning to grow a thicker skin and not looking weak is the key to letting a sticky  situation go even if you messed up and caused the red hot target of problems to make a person turn into a minefield and explode.'

Ooh, that was a heavy bit of advice. It takes a toll on you and affects you deeply on another level, but it's okay to not completely get over something for a while. Your brain stews on the one issue that made everything go up in literal smoke right? You might have messed up on a monumental level and no amount of apology can get you out of the hole of regret and despair of not being normal enough to grasp when and where to shut your opinionated misguided mouth. There's the foot in mouth syndrome, but the heart in mouth one is scarier. It makes your heart beat unnaturally fast against your ribcage until it's about to burst and then you explode into a black hole of fears your can't take away or keep at bay. It messes with your beliefs and ideals about yourself as a person. It takes a mega giant sized amount of confidence to be who you are, and getting the real you accepted by people is difficult when it keeps getting chipped and chiselled away inch by inch and piece by piece until you crawl back into your flower or cocoon of silence. 

Okay I'll stop getting  too passionate with the ramblings and get back to giving y'all some mind-blowing world-changing advice. Sit back and relax. Slip into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and joggers/T-shirts and shorts. Grab some cheese twists to munch on. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Don't ever get steamrolled over by fear. You'll make people unleash their inner beast on you, but you have to guard your emotional wellbeing by putting a stone wall of armour between you and the person who you've clashed with and yourself so you can protect yourself from becoming vulnerable. Being as impersonal as you can because it's gonna get real when you ;have a huge heart that is an open book can make you get hurt really deeply.'

Geez Louise. That was some dark insightful advice. You can't be a chicken, and run away from the problems that you face on a daily basis. Getting over them and yourself takes time and effort. It's hard to overcome trauma that you haven't been able to process on your own cuz you have to get over it fast like you're running a 10K marathon. I'm no Sonic the Hedgehog. There's this mantra that comes into your brain like a lightbulbs gone off; it goes along the lines of:

'You have to be okay, even if you're not okay.'

And/or:

'Fake it 'til you make it.'

These crazy lines need to be 86'd from your minds. It's a load of BS. Not everyone is programmed to be a perfect human being who has it all together, it's impossible to be smooth all the time. Your flaws will shine. Also all the truths from people about yourself will come to light even if you can't handle it. Every once in a while you need to tell people to back off and let you shed teh waterfall of sadness and the tidal wave of tears in their presence even if they feel repulsed by your weakness. In order for you to let things go you have to be able to love yourself. Getting over a hurdle of issues and insecurities is gonna be rough. They say talking it out with the people closest to you works, but sometimes it doesn't, it gets you in the deepest trenches of trouble. Having someone who you trust unconditionally will help you to become the hero to your storyline instead of the villain who creates disappointment in the eyes that are the windows to the soul. 

I'll stop chewing your ears off with my words of wisdom. I'll give y'all some jaw-dropping advice. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows and quilted blankets. Slip into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and joggers/T-shirts and jeans/sliders and trainers and fluffy slippers. GGrab a piece of black forest chocolate gateau. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Patience is the trickiest thing to master, but getting too much without a person knowing the reason you're acting bratty and not adulting in the right way is a dangerous line to walk on. People's words can hit you like a ton of bricks to make you question everything you've realised about your personality. Don't be afraid of change. Just don't change yourself to please other people for the wrong reasons.'

Sheesh! That was some heavy hitting words. Your persona is a bit part of who you are and it can change how you interact with a person. One second you're too loud and obnoxious for a person. Next minute you're too quiet. How do you find a middle ground between these personalities? I think you need to be one person when a stubborn old-school mind is around you cuz they're set in their ways. You have to slowly introduce them to the new exciting fresh unique mind that is you. Blow them away with all your accomplishments and achievements. You have to brick up the sad broken pieces of yourself and bury them underneath layers of thick tough skin to enable yourself to carry on, and blaze a trail of greatness in your wake.

There's an original line I said to some one back in my college days before going to university. It goes along the lines of:

'F*** off you're not part of this.'

It's a strong bold line that applies to getting over something. I'll give you one last piece of advice to consider and mull over in your heads. Sit back against those fluffy pillows and blankets. Slip into your favourite team merch. Grab a hot fudge sundae, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'There's a phrase you get told time and time again. It's all in your head. Don't listen to that cuz it sounds like you're crazy. Own the stage of becoming something new and improved. Live the bright colourful sound of opinion and thought that should be heard instead of taken down and ripped into shreds. Learn to ignore the tantrums that blow up your world in a volcanic storm and just be courageous and laugh in teh face of blinding terror.'

I'll leave y'all to follow in the footsteps of these g reat words.

Enjoy.

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