BLURTING OUT OPINIONS WITHOUT ANY FILTER

 Hey Dudes and Dudettes,

The brain is a messed up organ. It creates situations where you say the most random things without putting a lid of self-control on it. This can get you into sticky situations. It puts you in the trenches of trouble/allowing you to dip your toe in the quicksand of trouble, until you're neck deep in the belly of the beast of ticking time bombs of anger that puts a volcano erupting to shame. It doesn't matter to a person whether your medical condition affects the way you're wired to think if someone has antagonised you, it's like a reflex mechanism telling you to fight back and hit a few nerves until that person snaps like an emotional rubber band. I mean sometimes you can say the randomest comments without filtering it through your 'grey matter,' which will make a person storm off like a disgruntled toddler. I know some cool little people who are channelling their inner Braveheart as we speak. They're unafraid to tell you the brutal truths about yourselves with no filter. It's truly admirable.

Okay. I'll stop rambling and give y'all some ground breaking, earth changing advice. Sit back and relax against those fluffy cushions and pillows. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and joggers/T-shirts and shorts. Munch on a cheese string, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'Being straight up with someone should be refreshing in an ideal world. You have to find the right person to get everything off your chest to. Having a filter around some people will keep you in a safe bubble wrapped parcel so you have to find your number 1's and tell them whatever is eating you up alive on the inside. We're all human beings and we tend to mess up from time to time, but you have to overcome the overwhelming fear of offending a person. You can't hold back and engulf yourself in the silence and shadows. You have to go for it and face thr risks that you don't want to be weighed down by.'

OMG. That was a huge chunk of advice. The brain is a crazy muscle in the body. It's like a maze where all these thoughts overlap and send you into the frenzy of overthinking, and that leads you into dangerous territory. It makes your chest go all tight and breathing might not be an option that you think about in the heat of the moment, your lungs can fill up with the burning flame of uncertainty, and you don't know how to deal with words after you've let an unconscious thought blurt out in a single second that can make everything spiral into a whirlwind of misunderstanding. They say you have boxes which open up and store these moments like scenes in a movie that keep playing in the background like white noise, which allow these things called flashbacks to come, so you have to jam the lids of the boxes closed tight and lock them away in the dark crevices of the brain until you can forget about a sticky situation that happened in the past. 

Ooh. I rambled on for a bit there. I'll give y'all some jaw-dropping advice that will make your mind explode. Sit back and relax. Grab those fluffy blankets and pillows. Slip into your go to pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and joggers/T-shirts and jeans. Grab a Lindor, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'Remember to unleash your inner kid once in a while. They are the most honest moments of your life. You just have to think on a deeper level and figure out what to say in the context of how you're saying something to a person. Just don't let a person bring up past situations that can sink you deeper into self-doubt. It's hard to articulate yourself when your day ones can't be near you everyday. You have to take the wheel and be in the driver's seat when it comes to being opinionated and straight up with people to a certain extent. It might be rude or obnoxious, but at least you've said your piece instead of being a silent observer.'

Whoa. That was a heavy load of advice, but I'd want someone to tell me the same thing. Having no filter is a huge part of being in the Asian community. It might sound judgemental with some of the stuff that comes out of an elder's mouth, but it gives you the inspiration to stand up for yourself if you don't have anyone in your corner. Being able to stand up on your own two feet can be the difference between getting intimidated by a force of nature and being brave enough to advocate for yourself and on the behalf of others. Also having a backbone to fight back and argue until you're heard and listened to on another level can be scary and going into dark stormy waves of tension that can be cut with a sledgehammer can be the key to being powerful if you're feeling less of a person in a situation that's filled with the bubble of anxiety and full on panic.

Sheesh. I went too long and far into the rambling zone, but I'll give you some more awe inspiring lines to listen to. Sit back and relax. Grab a quilted blanket. Snuggle up in a bed if you have to. Slip into your favourite merch from a movie or show that you're fangirling/fanboying over. Grab a bowl of steaming hot soup. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Sometimes you can walk the slippery slope between thin ice and being on the edge of a cliff, maybe it's a cliffhanger moment that you've walked into. Don't be pushed into a mould of being the perfect person. Be a messy, uncoordinated, colourful, imperfect person that you are. Don't hide behind the armour or walls covered in ivy that you put up as a source of protection to stop the minefields of conflict slipping in through the cracks. It's okay to show a sliver of vulnerability to show that deep down you're real and you care about every little detail of what someone's said to you, and how deeply you feel when you're down to the wire of stress closing in on you. You have to burst out of your shell and become a revolutionary.'

Ooh. This is a huge mouthful of advice that I wish someone had told me. It's about finding someone who will be there throughout the darkness. They can be the light at the end of a rocky tunnel that guides you to greatness. There's this line from one of my favourite rom-coms She's The Man where a character called Duke Orsino talks about greatness. It goes along the lines of:

'It's just like what Coach says before every game: Be not afraid of greatness, some are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon them.'

Basically we're all great in our own ways We're all original and special in different ways. Every once in a while you're gonna make a mess of things and make tons of crazy mistakes that you'll look back on and laugh about later on down the road of this messy beautiful thing that's called life. It's short, but you have to make teh most of it by letting your voice soar over the rooftops in a huge roar like a lion/lioness to make change and impact someone differently until they see you for who you are without any barriers. You just have to put your best lines forward to create the brilliant version of yourself that at least one person likes. Being able to blurt things out gives you the chance to leave zero stones unturned and be able to be a superstar in the world. Being normal is overrated it's the special ones that surprise us, the ones who own their uniqueness and one of a kind originality that make our chests swell with pride.

I'll stop going off on one and give y'all more shell-shocking advice. sit back and relax. Grab all the pillows and blankets to make a castle or a fort. Slide into your favourite footie kit. Step out into a place that will allow you to find inner peace. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'The world isn't two colours Black and White. Sometimes there's a whole rainbow, and pieces of grey areas that can make you feel a sense of power to use your voice as a sense of empowerment. It's not about being able to exist in the places of a universe. It's about filling a space with positivity. So forget about looking at a huge picture of who you're supposed to be and how you're supposed to act. Just be who you are and pray that it's enough.'

Yeah. I hope it's believable advice for you to chew on. One last quote I wanna let you guys dwell on would be:

'Close you eyes, but keep your mind wide open.'

Another one would be:

'Mind like yours wide open you could create a whole new world.'

From the movie Bridge to Terabithia.

I'll leave you to figure out what the could mean for you as a person.

Enjoy.

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