BLOWING UP LIKE A GRENADE WHILE HAVING AN EMOTIONAL TEMPER TANTRUM

Hey Geek Girls/Nerd Boys,

This is not me i don't explode unless I have a perfectly good reason to. It's other people. When things get too much or someone tells them billions of times to turn their phone volume down and then out of no where you have a volcanic explosion just cuz you asked nicely. It makes your heart sink in your chest and your heart leap into your chest. A bubble of anxiety forms and it doesn't go away, and it doesn't matter how long you need to take to process it and get over it. Anger is a destructive thing and it makes you realise whether or not you can be the bigger person and rise above it. Can you? I'm not so sure. My response would be to show the deep raw sadness that comes from people blowing up and having these emotional temper tantrums. It's like riding a wave of calm before a huge thunderstorm. 

Okay I'll stop rambling and give you awesome people some ground-breaking advice. Sit back and relax. Grab those fluffy blankets and pillows. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodie's and joggers/T-shirts, and grab a huge mug of hot chocolate, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'A wise person once told me you have two ears one is for listening to all the words. The other one is for taking  all the garbage of those words out of your ears.'

That is a short, but profound piece of advice. It does work if you're not riddled with the bubble of anxiety squeezing your chest from the inside out with all that tension on your shoulders. You have to do that thing where you put your head between your knees and take deep lungful's of air by breathing in and out, until you can calm yourself down. Fear has to be able to lose to all the things that can shut you down. When all the balled up anger that leaves that person's chest shouldn't get you riled up it should just roll off your back like raindrops from rain. You have to have the best poker face or R.B.F  so no one can detect how messed up this person's temper makes you. 

I'll stop chewing your ears off and give you some more mind-boggling advice. Just relax and enjoy the ride. Grab those fans and slip into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and joggers/T-shirts. Grab an ice cream from an ice cream truck, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'You need to have at least one good person in your corner who understands you on another level. This person needs to always have your back and like you for the type of person you are. They will always challenge the person who gives you beef most of the time and they need to 'pattern' it out with them whatever that means. This person will give you their listening ear and they will always think you're a one of a kind original person.'

Whoa. This is some next level stuff. You can't feel sorry for yourself if you encounter a person like this. You have to stop falling into a puddle of guilt and what-could-I-have-changed. You have to pick up the pieces around you and carry on. Forget about this it's okay not to be okay line. It's BS most of the time. You have to have it together and keep it together at all times. You can't run away from a ticking time bomb. You have to eliminate it mentally until you win the battle cuz if you're cool as a cucumber nothing can hurt you, even if you feel the scars of emotional pain. They hit you in ways you can't recover from so you layer them over with carefree indifference right? 

I'll give you some more awesome infinity and beyond advice that will rock you to your core. Sit back and relax. Grab a tip-top. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Don't crumble like a tower of confidence crumbles. Be brave. Fight fire with a different kind of flame. Maybe one that doesn't turn into gasoline. You have to hold your head high and really let your strength show. Anger shows weakness and fear, you have to be silent and stealthy and keep some things under wraps for the digital book. Find something you can use as a weapon against anger. Whatever it is.'

Ooh. That's some minds blown right? There's this quote towards the end of the first Divergent movie from the villain Jeanine Matthews:

'Don't get me wrong. There's a certain beauty in your resistance- your defiance of categorisation. But it's a beauty we can't afford.'

A callous, but accurate ideal of anger. Maybe she's a character but you can detect the tyrant in her line. I think I like the beauty of resistance and defiance of being put in a category. You can stand up to this person who terrorises you with their temper and be your own version of brilliance whatever that is if you don't get blasted into outerspace.

Last bit of advice I'd like you to chew on would be:

'Don't give too much thought to the threats that these people make in a fit of rage. The rage burns out their capacity to think straight and it makes them vulnerable to your superpowers of calmness. If there's a realm of calm out there, take a chance and grab it like a lifeline and hold on to it until you're certain you can overpower this person with your rational mind.'

One last quote I'd like to leave for you to obsess over is:

'Be the girl on fire. Change the world.'

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