A PERFECT PERSON ALWAYS HAVING THE LAST WORD

 Hey Original One-of-a-kind people,

The experience of words that aren't registering with a person cuz they aren't hearing you? That's what I've seen. Someone doesn't wanna give you the chance to say your piece because they can't bear it if you win an argument. They have to have the last word cuz they set the bar of perfection extremely high and you can't do anything to measure up to it. They leave extremely big shoes to fill and you can't fill them since you are filled with flaws and imperfections that are higher than a mountain and a molehill. It's like being on a battlefield and there are tiny wars that you can win and lose, but you take all the losses most of the time cuz you're not built to inspire or follow footsteps in the sand cuz your words don't always have an impact on people when they're not heard or listened to. I know this feeling it leaves you hollow and callous and unfeeling. It strips all the happiness from your world and fills you with this unfillable void of sadness and anger that you can't control cuz the other person has all the power in the fight of your life that you're having. Trust me I've been there done that.

I've rambled on for a minute I'll try and give y'all some awe-inspiring advice now. Sit back and relax against those pillows and blankets, slide into your favourite pair  of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies/joggers/T-shirts, and listen loud and crystal clear:

'When you're fighting an unwinnable point and trying to get  it across to advocate on behalf of yourself it's easier to walk ten yards away then put yourself in the line of fire cuz you know you're gonna burst into flames if you don't try and diffuse the tension in a situation. Plus you need one person to sort this other person out when no one's in your corner to help you so you can have some verbal back up.'

Ooh that was too intense. The power you thought you had gets crushed like a bug, you're unable to keep all the control over your words and no one but you alone can manage the huge bubble of stress that settles in your chest. It shuts all your rational thought out the window to make room for the person who keeps talking over you and doesn't give you the chance to be heard so your opinions can be taken into consideration. It is a widespread issue if a person is older than you and keeps telling  a complicated person like yourself to be okay instead of  shouting cuz you don't know how to be okay when you're the literal eye of a storm and you're mowing everyone down around you like a verbal bulldozer  or an alien in outer space. It's like you're getting all these layers pulled back and you feel like rubble crumbling in your finger tips cuz you don't have all the words to fix things.

Okay, I rambled on for ages so I'll give y'all some more mind-blowing awesome advice. Sit back and relax. Grab  a quilted blanket. Slip into your favourite pair or loungewear/PJ's/Hoodies/joggers/T-shirts/Man U kits. Grab some Rice crackers to munch on. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Apologise to someone even if you have to be the bigger person. People won't apologise to you cuz you're not bigger and stronger people than them. You might not process or get over something a s fast as the next person, but that's okay. Maybe you have to exit a room to be okay. You can go to a safe place to be calm and then go back to the main place where you chill. Just don't answer 10 billion questions about how you felt in a situation. It won't work well. Just find the  best breathing exercises that helps you to remain at your best self.'

 Whoa. That was a huge chunk of advice that  can take time to sink in. Being who you are can be complex and too different for people to get most of the time. When this perfect piece of a person leaves then you have to figure out how to fill the shoes of their perfection even if you're not cut out to be perfectly imperfect. It's not okay to try and be this other person when you wanna be your own perfect person and you can't use your words to make change and a difference. This person needs to take lessons from the best movie Lemonade Mouth. Then you look like a crazy person cuz all of these issues you wanna talk about make you more complex and one of a kind original, which isn't a bad thing. 

Okay I have chewed your ears off so much. I'll give you so much advice that  will rock your world. So sit back and relax. Grab pillows and blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies/joggers/t-shirts/shorts. Grab some pringles. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'If you don't have someone in your corner to listen to what you have to say, don't waste your time and keep on going on and on about an issue. Grab a pad or a word doc and write everything down even if it's a small detail. Words have a way of turning into ammunition and hurting you. They could be like arrows that rip your protective armour to shreds so you're left defenseless and you don't have the power to fight back because all your words have been used to near exhaustion. You have to dig deep and find some impact to get you back on level ground so you can climb out of this hole of oblivion that's consuming you until you're in dark places that you can't come back from.'

Man. That advice  just shook me to my core. It's an emotional time when this happens to you. You try and be positive like Queen Poppy from Trolls World Tour. You have to show people that you can  walk through the fires of trials and tribulations in life. Verbal struggles happen to everyone, but you have to be careful before you say a strong group of individuals are bullying you. It can land you  deep up to your neck in the quicksand of trouble and you can't escape it. Then come all these difficult questions you can't answer and you feel trapped in a cage like an animal pacing their cage in the zoo. You can't find the words to get someone off your back with the mountain of emotional burden on your shoulder. Don't give up so easily. Fight for the words you believe in, when the army of people that have your back thins and fizzles out until you only have one person left who gets you on another level. 

I've rambled long enough  right? I'll give you a quote that makes me relate to this topic. It goes along the lines of:

'When you've been knocked down. You have to get back up.'

Another quote I really like comes from SpiderMan. It  goes along the lines of:

'With great power comes great responsibility.'

I totally agree. Anyway I'm gonna give you one last piece of advice:

'Don't get down in the dark pit of shame when someone talks about you  when you're not there. It might make you feel inferior and have less good feelings about yourself as a person. Don't gie into the negativity that comes with it. When someone tells you that you're not a positive person don't listen to them cuz you wouldn't have crushed cancer to the ground if you weren't positive. You wouldn't have embraced all the difference that a disability gives you. It's your new superpower. You have to own it and make the best of this unavoidable situation that puts you in a position of vulnerability where all your walls have be3en smashed to the ground.'

Whoa that's a hell of a lot of great advice. I'd follow it myself if  I was brave like the dauntless. 

One last quote to leave you with:

'Fear doesn't shut you down. It wakes you up.'

Enjoy.

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