DOUBTING AND DISBELIEF

 Hey Book-Geeks and TV-Nerds, 

Building up the brickwork of finally being who you are is figuring out where you wanna be rooted outside of the mould of perfection. You're oozing with that awesome, unfiltered easy-going, calm vibe, until the questions and doubt hits you like a slow moving unsuspecting punch to the gut. That red-hot simmering anger that you buried away underneath the darkness that comes with it resurfaces like molten hot lava firing up the balled up rage that isn't you. You hide the exploding elastic band of seething impatience underneath a calm serene lake of being super relaxed most of the time until the classic act of being questioned kicks in like you've been caught red-handed digging the trench of trouble that you weren't even standing near. The shovel wasn't in your hand, yet you are in the metaphorical hotseat of answering a million and one questions that you can answer and those one's you don't know how to answer and they leave you absolutely floored until you're looking for a way to duck out of the line of scorching flames that are the burning questions that you have running around in the dark crevices of the maze that we call the complex mind. 

Okay I'll stop rambling and get into the flow of the awe-some mind-boggling advice that I'm gonna give y'all after a long time of writing film/TV show recommendations. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows and wrap yourselves up in those quilted throws and blankets that are keeping your warm while you freeze your butts off. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/Kaftans/hoodies and joggers/T-shirts and shorts. Grab some of your favourite crisps to munch on. Listen loud and crystal clear: 

'It's a test of your patience so you gotta be level-headed and not stumble into the bait of all the doubt and disbelief you're getting. You'll try and suck it up like a deep breath, but you gotta be having some type of backbone and rising above it like a phoenix rising from the flames, and get a bit combative and use some of your awesome lines that come from the creative side of the maze that is the brain, which will make people stop and just be gobsmacked at your creative genius that is flying under the radar.' 

WOO! Some awesome, inspirational advice to get the unique juices of creativity flowing right there. It's about stepping outside of the Diaspora and just trying to shed all those vibes of negativity from clouding the brightest star that makes you shine. Try and find some positive affirmations that will make you rebuild yourself up back from the rubble of your tower of confidence and just be an amazing role-model for people who encourage you to get out of the cocoon/chrysalis that you've wrapped yourself around to avoid being  singled out into the blinding spotlight of telling to flourish into that force of nature that makes you roar like a lioness over the rooftops of your literal kingdom. It's about keeping your head held high no matter what type of ruckus you pull up unto your small corner of the world, it's about overcoming the thrashing waves of ruckus and stepping out like a regal cool, calm, collected, human being who is viewed as special instead of a person who's dipping their toe in the quicksand of trouble most of the time to advocate for themselves and on behalf of others. 

Geez Louise, I rambled on for time there, but I'll get back into the nitty gritty of the subject and lay down some jaw-dropping, earth-turning-on-it's azis type of advice that will make you stop in your tracks for a second. Sit back and relax against those comfy sofas with a quilted blanket over your lap. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/Kaftans/hoodies and joggers/T0shirt and jeans. Grab a plate of brownies/cookies to gobble, and listen loud and crystal clear: 

'Always have a comeback, it makes you come form a place of strength, You can still be vulnerable in front of people who you completely trust without having the chance to make them doubt who you are. Coming from a place of strength can make a world of difference when you're on the battlefield of defending your position when it comes to crushing the doubt into a mountain of sand that slips through your hand like the series of flashbacks from the past as they disappear into thin air. Be bold. Have no fear. Step into the unchartered territory of being crazily brave.'

Yikes. Some awesome advice that y'all can take some time to digest. You need to assess a situation from a different vantage point before you crumble into the waterfall of disappointment that can linger on your skin like rain droplets. Find people who believe in your personality and don't immediately pounce like a cornered wild big cat when you're using your voice to lay down a couple of laws to people who'll have your back no matter what sticky situations cling to the armour that is shielding you from the tsunami of emotions that you sometimes keep under wraps, this is the time to drop masks, walls that are as high as the clouds of daydreams, to show people the stripped back/raw version of you where you're keeping it real and letting all the guards you held up come crashing down like the leaves from a barren tree. 

Yeah I rambled on for a long time. I'll get back to the beauty of giving y'all some jaw-dropping, brain melting advice that'll make you say lines like 'not too shabby.' Sit back and relax in those comfy office chairs while you're staring at those monitors. Slide into your favourite pair of trouble. Be an origi loungewear/PJ's/Kaftans/hoodies and joggers/t-shirts and shorts. Grab a mug of Green Tea to chug. Listen loud and crystal clear: 

'It's okay not to be completely fine most of the time while you're getting doubted and disbelieved. You can stop being all strong and say you're fine 24/7 like the empowered person that's gotta keep moving and not stopping for a second. You can wilt like a flower not getting enough sunlight or water. Be able to bounce back from the setback of crumbling and get back up when you're falling on your butt on the cold, hard, unforgiving granite of the ground. It's time to the show the world you're using the untapped brilliance that makes you a blooming masterpiece. Bring back that fire that makes you go hand to hand with a beast of an opponent in a battleground where words can land brutally like bullets.' 

OOH. Some mind-altering advice right then and there. It's about trying to redeem yourself after getting caught off guard and flailing for some sense of clarity before figuring out your next move instead of making a bloody mess of things while simply sinking deep into the trenches of trouble. Be an original version of inspiring a mind that can wander off course and surrender to doubt and not believing in being good enough or measuring up to an impossibly high bar that you're not gonna reach. Be proud of what you're accomplishing every second of the day. Don't drown in the spiral that is the mind's way of opening up all those drawers that you've slammed shut in order to step into the sunlight of good vibes and positivity. 

Okay, I've rambled on for ages. I'll leave y'all with one last golden nugget of advice. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows and blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of footwear/chucks/kicks/trainers/fluffy slippers/fluffy socks/sliders/crocs. Grab a large tub of ice-cream to freeze your brain. Listen loud and crystal clear: 

'Grow the confidence to decide when you wanna step away from the line of doubt you're in and be able to go into the realm of calm to get away from it all for a few hours. Sink into the moments of calm and bliss that anchor you to a state of reality and who you're meant to be in order to be good, kind, and important when you're feeling down in the dumps. Hitting  rocky cliffs of rock bottom is not gonna cut it this time. Get back up from the rocky depths and climb back up to see a world full of beautiful colour streaked across the sky.' 

OMG. That was some mind-changing advice that will stick with us all. I'll leave y'all to chew on it. I'll leave y'all with one last quote that goes along the lines of: 

'DOUBT is a pain too lonely to know that faith is his twin brother- Khalil Gibran. 

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