MAKING A PERSON FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE/AWKWARD AROUND YOU

 Hey Team McDreamy VS Team McSteamy Fans,

This is an unintentional thing that you can do, you'll apologise for it a billion times, even if you were kept in the dark and got told a line that you had no context to go on. It makes you lie awake in the dark while you're counting sheep/staring up at mood lighting; while you're questioning why a person has character bashed you so much that you're questioning your goodness, and why you're being painted as a shitty human in the eyes of a person who you admire and look up to. You're left feeling crushed to the depths of your psyche, then you reveal all the cracks in the carefully crafted cement you've built to guard your high ceilinged tower of confidence and self-esteem, as it crumbles and turns into dust at your feet. It slips through your hands like sand slipping through your fingers. There's this cold gripping fear of anxiety, panic and cold sweat that drips down your neck to drench your whole body in the mess of the trench of trouble that you dug that day. You might as well grab a shovel and dig from England to  no-man's-land.

I've rambled on for ages. I'll give y'all some mind-altering/jaw-dropping advice that's gonna knock your socks off. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows and quilted blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/kaftans/hoodies and joggers/T-shirts and shorts. Grab a bowl of Choco Balls to gobble. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'It's a 50/50 percentage rate of a spectacular idea to confront a person to get more knowledge on the WHY and WHAT if you've made them experience the skin prickling uncomfortable awkwardness of having to hear your thoughts and ideas about a certain topic or person who has enabled you to be 'on the fence' about most things  Then you get the overwhelming wave of sadness cuz you know you crossed a line that was drawn in the sand that you didn't know about 'cause a person didn't tell you that your arrow-sharpened words are hitting nerves that make them a hard pill to swallow, so you can suck it up and become this veil of silence, and try to go back to being normal with a person even if you don't know how to.'

Starts slow clapping. This is some powerful advice, even if it's heavy. You try and take your mind off of it, but your brain is hardwired to figuring out how the heck you traumatised another human being, it eats at you in so many different ways 'cause this other person has caused some type of unspoken beef between you and a person who's come to your house and is using it as a hotel for a few weeks. You thought you could be yourself around a person and then they break your thin as ice trust that you're hanging onto by a literal thread, but it's okay to another person when they're complaining about you to another person when you think that you can be on another level with them, and they've got a brilliant understanding of where you're coming from it raises red flags. 

Wow, I've gone too deep into the thicket of messed upness that can come from a single conversation in a dark musty attic. Sit back and relax against those pillow/blanket forts or caves. Slide into your favorite pair of loungewear/PJ's/kaftans/hoodies and joggers/T-shirts and jeans. Grab some Rice Crackers to munch on. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'It doesn't matter if you didn't know about making a person feel unwelcome in your home. It's about apologising and acknowledging that you can't tell a person everything if they get major hearty about what you've told them in the strictest of confidence, cause it shows you up as being the bad guy in a storyline. The one who princes fight against, which makes you the dragon that gets slayed, don't be that person be the person that keeps it real with yourself and others, just not in a way that is offensive or gets miscommunicated that turns you into ex-communicado we can't all be as bad-as as John Wick.'

Zoo-Wee-Mama (line from Diary of a Wimpy Kid), that was some bone cracking advice. It's about you being a mature person and hashing it out to get to the bottom of a situation doesn't have to make you a crazy person if the other party doesn't know where you're coming from, and why you're wigging out on so many levels. If a person uses the famous line 'I don't know where this is coming from,' YOU have to just say 'I want some background and context to why another person would ask you to be an unbreakable vault and not repeat the words back to that person who has made you out to be a royal screwed-up disappointment in the eyes that are the windows to the soul of the person who is giving you a telling off when you don't have a clue as to why they're saying what they've said.

I gotta get back into the nitty-gritty down to the core of giving y'all some awesome mind-boggling pieces of words that'll bring the wisdom back into your lives. Sit back and relax against those comfy office chairs. Slide into your go to footwear/chucks/kicks/sliders/fluffy slippers/fluffy socks/boots/heels/normal slippers. Grab a Lindor to savour its gooey chocolatey center. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Putting your concern out there in order to look out for a person isn't your job all the time. It's stressful to try and be a superhero to a person that doesn't wanna be saved. Telling other people the business that is about them and theirs with the best of intentions can backfire. So when it comes and bites you in the backside just be cool as a cucumber, and try to step back from a person to give them space and time to be comfortable and less awkward around you. It'll help you mend a bridge that you've sort of burnt.'

This is some outstanding advice. It's about mending this wide gap that is now between you and a person. You can try and smooth things over if you think it'll work. Be open to being ambushed with a whole grenade of words from the people that are backing up the person you've made feel uncomfortable and awkward. Be like a panda and go on a binge and eat all the snacks in your house if it makes you feel better about yourself. Don't drown in the waterfall of conflicting emotions that lead to ruckus in your space. Embrace the fact that you can learn from this trail-blazing route of mistakes that you've left in your wake. Crazier things have happened in the world, but you don't mean to cause destruction in a safe space. It's about making sure you go forward and be able to trust yourself and your instincts to figure out how to be a sane normal person.

I'll stop rambling and give y'all some awesome out-of-space advice. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows and quilted blankets. Slide into your favourite merch from a TV show you love. Grab some cheese string to pull apart and eat. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'Maybe you'll get no where in trying to figure out what happened, but at least you tried to understand another point of view even if it's not what you want to hear or read. Be brave and just take your mind off it by watching something or colouring.'

I'll leave you to chew on that.

Enjoy.

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