COMPARISONS BETWEEN YOURSELF AND ANOTHER

 Hey XO Kitty fans,

We're back to the business of giving mind-blowing/inspiring advice, so buckle up and enjoy the rocky ride to figuring it all out. First of all 'new year new you' is going around now that we're halfway through January. It's not a thing that you consciously do, it just happens sometimes. It's not like you're hating on a person or being a hater, sometimes you just don't think you're adequate enough to be the greatest human out there. Being able to find your own flaws and comparing yourself to another is putting yourself in a sticky situation. It's about being able to find out what strengths and differences you have between you and another person and how you can be like them or be a self-improved person that's better than them. You're not trying to be superior, but you wanna make a person like you for who you are as a person and not put you down for your unique one-of-a-kind persona. It might get you sinking your entire body in the quicksand of trouble, but it allows you to figure out what similarities and differences there is between you and a fellow sibling/friend/colleague in arms/another family member. The mental lists can go longer than 2 pages in the maze that is the complex version of the mind's eye. You might be digging the trenches of trouble, but it's worth it if you're trying to figure out where you stand and how you're viewed in the line of positivity. There can be confusion about disliking a person whereas you're trying to figure out your place in a pecking order or hierarchy. Bringing their flaws up can make you fall into sticky situations. 

I'll stop rambling and give y'all some awe-inspiring mind-blowing advice. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows and slide into those quilted blankets. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies, sweatshirts, and joggers/T-shirts and jeans. Grab some chocolate cake to devour. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'You should never compare who you are to what another person is doing. Why question your bright bubbly personality? If it's leading you to the dark side of oblivion cuz you think you're not a good person, look in the mirror and tell yourself everything you like about yourself, while acknowledging what you can work on to improve your self worth and identity to be recognised by another person for doing some good in this complicated messy imperfect world. Take the initiative to do something that will make another person proud of you and not give you the judgemental speeches about what you're not doing and how you're not great enough cuz it's gonna make or break you in ways you might not wanna unpack in your brain. So try and find that glowing spark of happiness and bubbliness you once had.'

MAN, what a huge chunk of advice that will leave you shook. It's about being confident enough to tell another person where they're going wrong. It's not about offending a person so much that they'll blow up all Hulk style on you, it's about finding out whether another person can be on your level and have similar flaws to you or thinking about why they are perfect in everyway and figure out how to reach their level of perfection so you can be listed as number 1 in someone's good books. It's about embracing your difference even if your imperfections shine brighter than others. Basically don't compare another person to yourself cuz it can feed into self-doubt and anxieties to the point where you're drenched in the cold bucket of sweat that sticks to your skin like PVA glue. It's okay to burst out of your shell and tell another person what's similar and different about them and you, cuz it's gonna help you to figure out if you can fit into a crowd or stick out like a sore thumb, which isn't too bad. 

Ooh, too much rambling there from me. I'll dive back into the here and now to give y'all some mind-altering advice. Sit back and relax in those comfy chairs. Slide into your favourite pair of loungewear/PJ's/hoodies and joggers/T-shirts and shorts. Grab some jallepeno poppers to munch on. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'You have to filter out all the noise and figure out what areas of comparisons you wanna make between you and another person in a positive way. You can't wander off into the territory of negativity cuz that'll lead you into the darkness of the world of what if's and why's that will drive you to the land of craziness that you have to avoid. Bring out the best in yourself by being the character trope of the 'hero' or 'problem solver,' instead of the 'villain/troublemaker.' It doesn't matter how much you think you're gonna mess up. It's about being able to use your voice in the safest of places to create change and impact rather than chaos and ruckus and damage.'

Sheesh. A hell of a chunk of advice. It's like a balloon squeezing your chest tight then floating away after you've taken a deep breath and let it go. Weird analogy, but you can't try and be someone you're not capable of being to meet a target of goodness when you have to work on yourself and chip away all the messed up parts to get underneath the surface and reach deep down to switch it up and be able to impress a person in order to prove a point to them. Words can change the way a person views you, they can turn your confidence up to 100 or make you hesitant and shy. It's about remaking the world one step at a time and being able to navigate it in your own way. You can't rush the process of self-discovery and progress, it comes in bits and pieces, until you're sure of having an awareness of who you really are behind the mask. 

I rambled on for ages. I'll give y'all some more jaw-dropping advice. Sit back and relax against those fluffy pillows. Slide into your favourite chucks/trainers/kicks/sliders/crocs/fluffy slippers/fuzzy socks/heels. Grab a tip top to get the ultimate brain freeze. Listen loud and crystal clear:

'It feels like it's all in your head. that's not the case. Comparing a person to you is a struggle that you can face everyday, to not say it out loud and turn it into a habit is difficult, You have to be a vault and keep everything under wraps to stay under the radar and stay out of trouble. Sometimes it's better to risk it all and just be stupidly brave and go all out and say what you think is different and the same about you and a different person even if it sets of an earthquake of explosive emotion on the richter scale of impossible muck ups.'

Whoa, a chunk of advice there. It's not all about hating a person really. It's about being able to see the good and bad in a person to tell them how they can improve themselves on another level of greatness. You can give a person a one-liner or a whole paragraph of where you think they should improve and how they should hide weakness under a layer of heavy armour. Bringing your walls down takes time and effort, but is it worth it in the end? Is it enough to be able to share a thought that isn't a comparison? Maybe. 

I'd like to leave you with a quote:

'I feel like someone breathed new air into my lungs. I am not Abnegation. I am not Dauntless. I am Divergent.'

(Tris-Divergent.)

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