SABR-AKA PATIENCE

 Hey it's me again,

Back to business now as I've been inspired by the male parental. He talked about the prophet spreading the message to a city called Taif. The people didn't listen to that message. An angel appeared before him. He asked him 'Oh Prophet shall I ask God to  crush them with the mountains?' The prophet replies 'no because their children will learn the lessons I teach.' This is why we should always calm down in times of panic mode. This adult life is hard. You gotta be as cool as a cucumber. Not too hyper. 

This is what I've learnt from the programme on Netflix Resurrection Ertugrul taught me. That family spread the message of Islam from Turkey throughout the Ottoman Empire. The beys led the simple life. I've rambled on for ages now. I'll put down some gob-smacking advice, so sit back and relax against those recliners I know you have, grab some brownies, be Bruce Bogtrotter, and listen loud and crystal clear 'No one can be judged in this life. You are your own person. You have to bear the burden someone puts on your shoulders/back/head. You just need to take the hurt and the pain, but never hide it. Always go to someone. Don't feel you have to hide behind your walls. The tower of confidence breaks into rubble a few times, but you can always bounce back and be the best version of yourself.' 

Ooh the pace of that. You need to grab a cold glass of Iced Coffee for that. Maybe wash it down with some Chocolate Milk. No matter who has caused you immovable pain, where your heart is heavy, where you don't have the willpower to shine like the brightest star in the galaxy, keep pushing on. Keep on smiling that mega-watt bright White smile. Don't let it get dim. This is what patience teaches us in our religion. You have to be on it like a car bonnet. Don't let yourself crawl back into your shell when you were 14-15 years old. Crawl out of the layers of the cocoon that surrounds you. Break away from the drowning feeling of the deep overthinking your brain does. 

Don't feel like you have to go all radio silent on people who love/care/support/be there forever. 'Forever' that's a Twilight reference from Breaking Dawn Part 2. You can only be the 3 C's- these are being cool/calm/collected. There's times you can be so silent that the dam of emotion just bursts. It's like a river of tears that flows into the waterfall of numbing sadness. Never let it get that far. Even if you don't wanna worry anyone too much. Erase the past. Live in the mysteries of the present. Or the unknown of the future. 

Always go and get advice/guidance/inspiration from the parentals. They have so much untapped experience when it comes to this stuff. They'll sit you down and give you the full explanation of the 411. Sometimes you wonder where has my high standards of high self-esteem gone? It's not gone anywhere. It's just getting it back is hard. Don't think you're less than anyone else. 'If someone had to cut your finger off, which finger would you tell them to cut off? The answer would be none. It's impossible to choose.' A parent can never love one kid more than another. They think every kid is special. They show it in different ways. There's no favouritism. There's equal love. We as people need to remember that. Sometimes we need to remember they give us different types of special attention that we should be grateful for and cherish/treasure for the rest of our lives. 

See I've rambled on for ages. Let me bring back the ground-breaking advice. Sit back against those fluffy pillows, grab a mint/green teas, wear your favourite pair of loungewear, most importantly listen loud and crystal clear; 'Take the trivial things outta your mind. Don't think about them. Today was Saturday right? Tomorrow's a fresh/brand-new day. God has written new things for you. He can only judge you. He had the power to do it. Don't think you're not a better version of yourself just because life gets in the way. Issues happen. You can't avoid the emotional shipwreck that you are.' 

Forget about the bulls*** that people put on your shoulders. It's all about you. No one else needs to tell you what's going on. No one needs to be in that denial. Don't cry in the silence. Write it down privately if you have to. Deal with it in your own manageable way. You can't help the 'crying business' if you've got a medical condition. Some people find it hard to understand. You have to realise some people think you're a normal functioning human. I wish I was a superhero. Someone like Daredevil or Jessica Jones. Man like Matt Murdock has mad skills with his cane. If only I was amazing like that. I wouldn't be Frank Castle though. But he didn't have the patience to deal with the loss of his family. 

Patience takes time. It's all a work in progress. You've gotta work at it until you're a pro like my male parental/female parental. If you're ever in a situation where no one's listening to you, jut walk away and leave it alone. There I've done it again, got so immersed that I need to give some more guidance so here it comes. Just give me a sec. Y'all just sit back/relax, grab your Milk Trays and munch those chocs, wear your favourite joggers/T-shirts, and listen loud and crystal clear 'In life you have to take the heat, you gotta stop and think about how you represent yourself in a situation. Let them explain themselves first before you go all macho on them. Let the parentals advise you on the tough stuff. You just gotta show them you're trying to learn the lessons they're teaching at the end of the day. You have to show them you're the best kid out there. They're only hoping for the best possible life for you.' 

Big big shout out to the male parental today. He helped me so much to realise that sabr is the best thing out there. You just get your clicker thing and pray to God. Speak to him through duaa (prayer). Don't tell the female parental I wrote that! He gets the credit today. She gets more because she looks after me. Anyway back to the topic at hand, it's all about faith/trust in God. Ask him for anything and you shall receive. Even if a person doesn't get off your back, you need to take those deep breaths and calm down. It's about making yourself clever and making others look at you to get that message across in the most positive way. Even if you're struggling with the same problem every time. Don't forget to actually sit down with a person, and spend time with them. 

OMG rambling on as usual, but dreams happen, things come up. Scary/mind-numbing things come up. You just gotta carry on in your own state of normality. The real question is what is normal? Nothing. Zilch. Nada. It's overrated. You're not a freak. Just be your own quirky/cool/independent person. Learn to just loosen up in the heat of the moment. Be your own bubbly, happy self. Create a new you. The brand-new version. The changes that happen don't happen overnight remember that. IT takes time. Yes at the end of the day, the blinking truth hurts, but it's what you do with that truth to make yourself the better version of the best YOU  there can be.  Speaking of YOU, let's do a little shout-out to Mr. Goldberg himself. Brilliant narrator, but does weird bad stuff you don't even wanna know about. 

Ooh i've done it again haven't I? Let me let y'all relax yourselves with your mochas/Iced Coffees/Hot Chocolates/Teas. Grab your favourite loungewear/hoodies/joggers/PJ's. Listen loud and crystal clear 'Don't fall into the trap of oblivion. Where's that gonna lead you? No Place rather than in the dark corners of your brain. The mind is always gonna be taking you to these mazes but don't be stupid like Thomas in The Maze Runner Series. Always go to a guiding adult.' Sorry just doing arts and crafts. Made an amazing drawing. 

Also, it's not your fault if an adult gives you advice and you take it. 

I'll let you guys chew on this one. 

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