PEOPLE GIVING YOU CRITICISM

 EVERYBODY THINKS THAT GIVING CRITICISM TO A PERSON IS SUPPOSED TO BUILD THEM UP OR MAKE THEM BETTER BUT THAT'S NOT WHAT IT DOES IT MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE NOT GOOD ENOUGH CUZ YOU'RE BEING PICKED APART AND BEING ANALYSED LIKE A MECHANICAL OBJECT GETS PULLED APART AND THERE'S ALL THESE PROBLEMS UNDERNEATH IT THAT NEED TO BE SORTED OUT BUT THAT'S NOT HOW PEOPLE WORK. IT TAKES A LOT FOR A PERSON TO FEEL LIKE THEY DON'T MATTER CUZ THERE'S OTHER PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO ARE SO FERFECT THAT THEY MIGHT NOT HAVE THAT MANY FLAWS SO WHEN IT COMES TO YOU YOU'RE COMPARED TO THEM AND GIVEN CRITICISM BASED ON HOW YOU LOOK OR WHAT YOUR SKIN LOOKS LIKE BUT YOU SHOULDN'T LET IT GET TO YOU AND EAT YOU UP ON THE INSIDE. YOU NEED TO MASTER THE ART OF THE POKER FACE SO NO ONE CAN SEE YOUR LIP QUIVERING OR THOSE TRAITOROUS TEARS ESCAPE FROM YOUR EYELASHES CUZ YOU'RE SO OVERWHELMED OR OVERSENSITIVE. OK I'VE BEEN RAMBLING ON FOR AGES SO I'M GONNA GIVE Y'ALL SOME WORDS OF AWESOMENESS SO GRAB YOUR FAVOURITE PAIR OF PJS AND GRAB THE BLANKETS AND FLUFFIEST PILLOWS AND SIT BACK AND RELAX AND GRAB SOME CHEESE TOAST WITH SIROTCHA ON IT AND LISTEN LOUD AND CRYSTAL CLEAR 'YOU MIGHT NOT ALWAYS BE ABLE TO TAKE THE HEAT WHEN PEOPLE ARE GIVING YOU CRITICISM SO YOU'VE GOTTA BE ABLE TO ASSERT YOURSELF AND BE ABLE TO ADVOCATE FOR YOURSELF CUZ IF YOU'RE NOT STICKING TO YOUR GUNS WHILE PEOPLE ARE TRYING TO TELL YOU THINGS THAT AREN'T POSITIVE ABOUT YOU AND THAT CAN MESS WITH YOUR CONFIDENT EASY GOING NATURE SO DON'T REACT IN AN AGRESSIVE WAY WHEN SOMEONE IS CRITICIZING YOU WHEN YOU'RE JUST TRYING TO MAKE PEOPLE BELIEVE IN YOU' OOH THAT WAS A HUGE CHUNK OF ADVICE THAT EVERYONE NEEDS TO FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES IN SOMEWAY SHAPE OR FORM. SOMEDAY WE'RE GONNA RISE ABOVE ALL THE CRAP THAT PEOPLE THROW AT US AND WE'RE GONNA BE SOMEBODY THAT IS VALUED AND LISTENED TO INSTEAD OF BEING IN THE MIDDLE OF A CROSSFIRE WITH BULLETS OF LECTURE FILLED CRITICISMS RAINING DOWN ON YOU. SOMETIMES YOU JUST WANNA BE LEFT ALONE IN PEACE WITHOUT ANYONE TELLING YOU THAT YOU'RE A CRAPPY EXCUSE OF A HUMAN BEING AND THAT YOU BEING EMOTIONAL ABOUT BEING PUT ON THE SPOT WHILE YOU'RE TRYING TO EAT IS A BUNCH OF NONSENSE THEN THEY DON'T KNOW THAT WAS A MOMENT OF WEAKNESS CUZ WHEN PEOPLE APPRECIATE WHAT YOU'VE GOTTA SAY AND VALUE YOUR OPINIONS THEN YOU CAN BE STRONG AND POWERFUL CUZ THEY'RE NOT JUDGING YOU SINCE THEY'RE ON YOUR LEVEL AND THEY CAN RELATE TO YOU ON SO MANY DIFFEREENT THINGS EVEN IF SOMEONE FAILS THEIR DRIVING TEST OR SOMETHING IT'S THE ADVICE YOU CAN GIVE THEM TO MAKE THAT PERSON FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES BUT WHAT DO WE DO? WE POKE AND PROD AT A PERSON'S FRAGILE EGO AND SEARCH FOR ALL THE FLAWS UNTIL WE BREAK A PERSON APART LIKE A MECHANICAL OBJECT AND WE STRIP THEIR IDENTITY AND CONFIDENCE APART WHEN WE SHOULD BE LIFTING THEIR SPIRITS UP AND TRYING TO GET THEM OUT OF THAT DARK WINDING ROAD TO HARMFUL THOUGHTS IN THEIR HEADS AND WE SHOULD LET THEM KNOW HOW MUCH YOU CARE ABOUT THEM AND HOW MUCH YOU VALUE THEM AS A PERSON INSTEAD OF LABELLING THAT PERSON AS A KID. OK I'M GONNA STOP RAMBLING RIGHT NOW AND GIVE Y'ALL SOME POWERFUL AWE-INSPIRING ADVICE SO GRAB THOSE PILLOWS, FLUFFY BLANKETS, SIT BACK AND RELAX AND GRAB SOME ANGEL DELIGHT AND LISTEN LOUD AND CRYSTAL CLEAR 'YOU NEED TO BE ABLE TO ADVOCATE ON BEHALF OF YOURSELF SO YOU CAN BE A REGINA (QUEEN) AND RULE THE WORLD USING YOUR WORDS BUT DO IT IN A NICE CALM WAY SO THAT YOU DON'T HAVE THAT MEAN STREAK OF ATTITUDE THAT WILL GET YOU IN TROUBLE. IT'S ALWAYS AMAZING TO GET ALL THAT PENT UP AGRESSION AND ANGST OFF YOUR CHEST TO SOMEONE SO YOU CAN BREATHE A SIGH OF RELIEF AND BURST OUT INTO A LOUD LAUGH THAT CATCHES YOU OFF GUARD AND MAKES YOUR RIBS HURT UNTIL YOU'VE GOT TEARS IN THE CORNERS OF YOUR EYES SINCE YOU'RE LAUGHING SO HARD. LEARN TO USE YOUR WORDS TO INSPIRE CHANGE SO THAT YOU CAN CREATE SOME KIND OF POSITIVITY AND JUST LEARN TO BE THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF SO THAT NO ONE CAN TELL YOU HOW MUCH OF A BEAUTIFUL MESS YOU ARE AND HOW YOU CAN'T LIVE UP TO YOUR PERFECT OLDER SIBLING AND YOU JUST HAVE TO VOICE YOUR CONCERNS ABOUT WANTING TO BE YOUR OWN PERSON BUT ALSO BEING THE GREATEST PERSON IN THIS LIFE' OKAY THAT WAS SOME DEEP HEAVY ADVICE THAT JUST MAKES YOU THINK THAT YOU CAN BE A LEGEND ALL BY YOURSELF WITHOUT EVEN TRYING TOO HARD TO PROVE YOURSELF TO THE WORLD. LET ME JUST BREAK IT DOWN FOR YOU RIGHT HERE AND NOW YOU ONLY HAVE TO LOVE YOURSELF FIRST AND PUT YOURSELF ABOVE OTHER PEOPLE SOMETIMES CUZ BEING SELFLESS IS A GREAT QUALITY TO HAVE AND EVERYONE NEEDS TO BE A LITTLE ABNEGATION ONCE OR TWICE IN THEIR LIFE ROLLED IN WITH A LITTLE CANDOR AND DAUNTLESS CUZ TELLING THE TRUTH AND BEING FEARLESS AND BRAVE MAKE YOU A LITTLE MORE BULLETPROOF CUZ YOU HAVE THE FACTS TO COUNTERATTACK CRITICISM WHETHER IT'S GOOD OR BAD. IF YOU HAVEN'T WATCHED THE DIVERGENT FILMS YOU WON'T UNDERSTAND THE REFERENCES TO ABNEGATION, CANDOR OR DAUNTLESS.  ANYWAY I'VE RAMBLED ON FOR AGES NOW SO I'LL LAY DOWN SOME AWESOME WORDS OF WISDOM SO GRAB THOSE FLUFFY PILLOWS AND SOFT BLANKETS AND SIT BACK AND RELAX AND GRAB SOME CHOCOLATE DIGESTIVES AND LISTEN LOUD AND CRYSTAL CLEAR 'PEOPLE THINK THEY'RE DOING YOU A FAVOUR WHEN THEY GIVE YOU SOME CRITICISM ABOUT YOURSELF AND HOW YOU PRESENT YOURSELF AS A PERSON WELL YOU CAN CONTRADICT THAT BY TRYING TO BACK YOURSELF UP IN THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT EVEN IF YOU'VE DUG A PIT OF TROUBLE THAT YOU CAN'T COME BACK FROM. PEOPLE WILL GIVE YOU CRITICISM CUZ THEY THINK THEY CARE ABOUT YOU BUT WHEN YOU TRY AND TELL THEM THE THINGS THAT MATTER THEY'RE EITHER NOT BOTHERED OR THEY INTERRUPT YOU BY SAYING THEY DON'T CARE OR THEY'RE NOT BOTHERED SO WHY TRY TO CONNECT WITH THEM ON A DEEPER LEVEL?  IT'S CUZ THEY'RE FAMIGLIA (FAMILY) AND YOU HAVE TO FIX THINGS WITH THEM NO MATTER HOW MUCH THEY CHEESE YOU OFF. EVEN IF THEY DON'T VALUE YOUR VIEWS AND OPINIONS AS MUCH AS YOU'D LIKE THEY'RE STILL TRYING TO BE THERE FOR YOU AND YOU SHOULD GIVE THEM SOME CREDIT FOR CARING IN THEIR OWN FUNNY WAY' OOH THAT WAS A HARD HITTING BIT OF CONFLICTING AND CRONTRADICTING ADVICE BUT EVERYONE'S A WALKING CONTRADICTION SO WHY QUESTION IT? OR WHY DO WE HAVE TO ATTACK PEOPLE'S EMOTIONS BY TELLING THEM THAT THEY'RE NOT GOOD ENOUGH CUZ THEY DON'T MEET THE EXPECTIONS AND CRITERIA OF BEING IN THEIR PERFECT LITTLE CLIQUE OF PEOPLE? THE ANSWER IS THAT'S REALLY MESSED UP AND WE AS HUMANS SHOULD BE FIGHTING TO STOP THIS FROM HAPPENING TO GOOD HONEST PEOPLE. TO ACHIEVE THIS IS BY NOT GETTING TOO TRIGGERED WHEN PEOPLE CRITICISE YOU BEHIND YOUR BACK EVEN IF IT MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE USED CHEWING GUM THAT GOT STUCK ON THE BOTTOM OF SOMEONE'S SHOE. YES I AGREE THAT YOU'VE GOTTA STAND UP FOR YOURSELF BUT IT'S IMPORTANT TO HAVE SOME TACTICS ON YOUR SIDE SUCH AS USING THE FAMOUS POKER FACE TO YOUR ADVANTAGE SO YOU CAN MASK YOUR EMOTIONS CUZ SOME PEOPLE JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY YOU CRY 24/7 SOMETIMES IT'S JUST THAT YOU MIGHT FEEL MISUNDERSTOOD AND I TOTALLY GET THAT BUT SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO PUT YOUR WALLS UP AND BECOME AS TOUGH AS A ROCK SO THAT NO ONE CAN READ YOU LIKE A BOOK AND SEE THROUGH YOU IF THE REAL YOU SCARES THEM. OKAY I'M GONNA LEAVE YOU WITH THAT THOUGHT IN MIND AND LET YOU CHEW ON ALL THIS ADVICE AND SIGN OFF SO HOPEFULLY YOU'LL SOAK UP ALL THIS INSPIRATION IN SOME WAY SO BYE FOR NOW. 

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